Planning birthdate??

Toster21

Hi,
I'm new to this TTC community. My question is should my husband and I 'go with the flow' to see how baby making goes or is planning the baby's birthdate too much???
Everyone I talk to says it never works out the way you plan..hehe.
What are all your thoughts??

Thanks

Venus201

I think about that, too. I keep doing the counting thing in my head where I say, "If we get preggo during X month, the baby would come during Y month, and that'd work out great." Ha! I'm thinking maybe setting a range would be better. So, I've tentatively

magdalina.h

You can't plan it. You can try, but that doesn't mean it will happen. We were trying for a late spring/early summer baby and I'm due at the beginning of Sept.

greengirl0909

We've been very lucky and have been able to have our babies when we were hoping to do so. I have about a 3 or 4 month window that is really ideal for me.  If we don't conceive in that time, we'll reconsider waiting another year to try. 

Toster21

Thank you for your insight. My husband and I are ready and excited about trying. Just this month we had a "chemical pregnancy". After talking about that situation we are eager to try but think we will wait a couple months for the ideal window.
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Toster21

We do the same thing regarding the counting. We are also thinking of beginning our journey in June that will result in a March birthdate.
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BeckyOff

MandJS:

It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive if there are no problems. So I vote no. Don't "plan". Start TTC

Twinkie0612

I planned on having a baby in May 2012.

::Looks at siggy::

Yeah that didn't turn out like I planned.

In all seriousness OP, you can try to "plan" when your baby is born, but don't get upset if it doesn't work out the way you plan

Toster21

Very true statements. Nothing is certain and nothing can truly be planned.
I know my husband and I will be happy with whatever we are given. Even if we try now it may not happen till June. Or if we try in June it may happen on the first shot or many

magdalina.h

BeckyOff:

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ChristyML

We just wanted a baby. I would have loved to have had a baby in October (a super tiny baby for Halloween was my dream), and to my happy surprise, I got an October baby! The time, I have been wanting a November baby, and it's not going to happen. I think I

Bonnesetter27

We planned ds's birth. I am a teacher so we wanted to maximize my maternity leave time so we planned for a spring/early summer birth. It took 3 months to get pregnant and had him in May. I was very happy with the timing but I would have taken my baby at a

AbbyZ5

In a perfect world, that would be cool! However, I dont think it usually works out that good. DH and I would be happy no matter what month it is, if we get our baby. You could try at first, but may end up not caring. And just want to get a BFP.

PunkyBooster

I planned for a Christmas baby. DS was due. Dec 2 and came Nov 18 my grandfather's 100th birthday!!! Mostly because the end of Q4 and all of Q1 were the best times to be out at my job.

You can try but just know that you cannot always contr

MissMandyD

We have been TTC for 4 cycles and it can take over a year for couples where both people are healthy to conceive. Better to just start trying and take it as it comes. GL!

mamathefox

I swore up and down I never wanted to be "very" pregnant in the summer. Well I was ALL DARN SUMMER in the 100 degree heat. I survived but you dont always get everything, at least I got a sweet baby

mrstengallonhat1

As PPs said, DH and I are trying more for a "window" so that we will ideally have a baby between February and June of 2014. I personally don't want to be super pregnant in the summer, so that's why we've waited to try until next month. But then again, i

robinsokj

banvillec:

What we think is perfect and what God thinks is perfect can be too different things. Everything happens for a reaso

magdalina.h

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morrkim

I'm a lurker, but I wanted to comment.  I don't think you should focus on a specific month, but you could focus on a time of year, but be prepared to just let it happen if timing doesn't work.  I would also start about a month earlier then your

PunkyBooster

banvillec:

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robinsokj

banville, believe whatever you want but you've obviously completely missed the point

 

Dont say this *** to other people.  

Twinkie0612

robinsokj:

banville, believe whatever you want but you've obviously completely missed the point

 

Dont say th

proudworkingmom82

Dont stress yourself out with trying to pick the birthdate or birthmonth, you might get really lucky but not likely.  Once you get pregnant you will be so happy you are you won't care about the birthdate.   

DrewsWife2007

we tried that....didn't work out