STMs - Hard time with new baby?

Momof2Es

Okay I hope no one flames me for this...but I need to know if anyone else feels this way or if it's just me.  My oldest daughter is three and a half.  She has done so well with us bring DD # 2 home, better than I could have imagined.  That will probably change once #2 becomes mobile and gets into her stuff, but we will deal with that then.  Anyway, sometimes I find myself thinking back to things before baby #2, and I find myself at times grieving my old life with just my oldest daughter.  I think it's because now I have to devote so much time to #2 because she is a newborn.  I will think about things like taking my oldest out to lunch just the two of us or to the park and I get a  little sad and start thinking how it won't ever be that way again.  I know that when DD #2 gets older and can interact with her it will be so much better, but for now when I have these feelings I feel like a terrible mom to DD #2.   

 I love DD #2...it's not that.  It's just that life has changed so much for all of us in the past month, and it is still taking a lot of getting used to.  Am I the only one, or has anyone else felt this way? 

amatistajoy

I feel conflicted. DS "grew up" so fast.. in the blink of an eye, he is a toddler and not a baby. So, I should soak up every moment with DS2 so I don't miss a moment right? But what about DS1?? I just feel like a pendulum swinging back and forth between b

emriley84

amatistajoy:

I feel conflicted. DS "grew up" so fast.. in the blink of an eye, he is a toddler and not a baby. So, I should so

skidaisy

I could have written this post today.  I cried because I couldn't put my almost two year old to bed last night because baby was nursing. 

 No advice here, just know that you are not alone!!

HML5382

I'm with you all too! I really don't have any advice either, but I'm feeling so torn between my 2 girls. Trying to continue the fun relationship I have with my DD1 and find time to appreciate DD2's newborn stage is really difficult. I feel like I'm kin

taceituno

I am with you ladies. My oldest is 3yo and she has done really well with the new baby wants to help and hold and make her feel better when she is crying. The only issue we've had is bedtime rebellion. I feel like if I had more time to devote specifically

KYmama9286

Totally normal- now that I am on baby #3 I will say that the adjustment from 1 to 2 was WAY harder emotionally for me than this time around (this time around its physically harder since I officially have more children than I have hands haha). To be hon