Is a Gender Reveal Shower tacky?

mrstengallonhat1

I understand not having a separate Gender Reveal Party, but would it be considered tacky to reveal the sex at the shower? Just looking for input! Thank you!

girlmama83

I don't think so. I prefer the idea of incorporating it into your shower rather than expecting people to attend two parties.

I think it would be something fun to do at your shower. Maybe ask your host to incorporate the gender into the cake as a way of revealing to your guests.

mrstengallonhat1

Sorry for any confusion I'm not even pregnant yet but my mom has already said she would want to host a future baby shower and suggested it! Just wanted to get a read as to whether it was tacky or not. Thanks for your input!

EastCoastBride

Don't have a "Gender Reveal Shower", but if you want to reveal at your regular shower, that's fine. 

EastCoastBride

msspeedymarie:

Some people might be a little annoyed if they bought gender neutral clothes, to find out what you are having after they bought the clothes.

This doesn't really make sense, though.  At some point, you find out the sex no matter what and they still bought gender neutral clothes.  "When" THEY find out the sex really doesn't matter when it comes down to it.,

[Deleted User]

I don't really like any of that "gender reveal" stuff. No one aside from a select few really care about the sex of your baby. But...that's just my opinion:)

mama&baby

Asbromle:

I don't really like any of that "gender reveal" stuff. No one aside from a select few really care about the sex of your baby. But...that's just my opinion:)

The select few are the ones that should be at the baby shower. Unless of course you are referring to the practice of inviting everyone under the sun to your baby shower just to get presents. Then no, of course they wouldn't care.

I'm like PPs... I think it is fine to make it a part of the shower as long as it's not the overall theme of the shower. 

rhubarb123

mama&baby:

Asbromle:

I don't really like any of that "gender reveal" stuff. No one aside from a select few really care about the sex of your baby. But...that's just my opinion:)

The select few are the ones that should be at the baby shower. Unless of course you are referring to the practice of inviting everyone under the sun to your baby shower just to get presents. Then no, of course they wouldn't care.

I'm like PPs... I think it is fine to make it a part of the shower as long as it's not the overall theme of the shower. 

I agree with Asbromle.  We were team green but if I had known only my DH and grandparents would be told...those would be the "select few".  Is that you invited to your shower mama&baby?  Doubt it.

Personally, I would probably be a bit annoyed (not because I bought gender neutral stuff - I do anyway) but because I'd be thinking...OK...obviously people knew...how come I didn't.  I think having a shower in your honor is enough aww for one day and a gender reveal is not necessary.  Most people really DON"T care what sex your baby to be is.

3222w27thst

Not at all. I think it be nice and even if its before hand so people know what gender to buy for. Revealing it at the shower maybe fun and you can do a game out of it too.

Jillwithani

We revealed the sex at the shower. It was pretty fun, our moms cut into the cake which was blue inside. We had already known the sex but it was cool to share with EVERYONE all at the same time. The hostess also had a few games around it too, everyone picked "teams". 

BeckyTheEngineer

If you want to do this, I think it would be best if EVERYONE was learning the sex at the shower.  Including you, your mom, the host, everyone.  I think it would be fun to watch the mom learn she was having a girl/boy.  I don't think it would be fun to learn that a handful of people in the room already knew, and depending on my relationship with the MTB, that I wasn't told (if we were close).  I've never been to a sex reveal and have never heard of anyone I know doing that, but I like the idea of NOT doing a separate party. 

momtobealison

I hope it isn't tacky-my shower is in a few weeks and we put right on the back of the invitation:

 

Will it be a (picture of a blue sweet pea baby) or a (picture of a pink sweet pea baby) ? Come to the shower and you will see!

 

I don't know why I wanted it to be a secret for a while I just did-I also always cringe when people get all baby clothes at their shower, and yes I am often a clothing gift giver myself. I know if the sex is not told I am more apt to buy someone something they ask for on their registry-probably something they need a great deal more than pink or blue size 0-3month onesies! So I guess that had something to do with it, either way I'm excited to share with everyone at the shower (by cutting our cake only)!

 

LC122

I think it's fine if you really want to do it that way, but I agree with the PP who said no one should know until the reveal. You don't want to divide people into the knew and didn't knew at a party.
Personally, I don't like it because I prefer to buy gifts for the appropriate gender. I hate gender neutral green and yellow. And frankly, even nonclothing gifts tend to come in either boy or girl colors Boppy pillows, bathtubs, toys, bibs, etc.
I don't like pink frilly either and if asked we told people we preferred purple to pink for our daughter, but we got some pink frills anyway and darn if she doesn't rock those outfits too. So, we got some cute stuff we otherwise wouldn't have bought ourselves but still look really cute on our daughter.

LoriLee14

I had a gender reveal party. I enjoyed it and other people did too, some still talk about it although they refer to it as a sex reveal party.

However we (husband and myself) hosted it. I paid for the food, and cake and had it at our house. The only people invited were the parents, my brother (who couldn't come) and his sister. It was more like a family get together with a twist. after that it was open for everyone to know

Kelli2507

Just keep the gender reveal thing on the DL and at the end of your shower make the announcement and give your guests a little surprise! That'd be cute but don't have your host specifically have a gender reveal shower. Let them do all the planning and they don't even need to know that you plan on announcing the sex.

HappyMrsK

Darbie914:

I don't think it's a big deal to reveal the sex of the baby at the baby shower.  

But I absolutely detest having Gender Reveal parties that are separate events aside from the shower.  They are AWish and kinda stupid to me.

 

This.  

jadesea

I was at one over the weekend like this where the MTB revealed it in the middle of the shower and it didn't go over well because it made it look as if she only kept it secret until gifts were purchased that she wanted and now it's okay to let other know.

 However, I will say most didn't purchase off her registry regardless of her "Team Green" status. I was kind of irritated by it because it was very obvious based on her reaction to her gifts her "plan" didn't work the way she thought.

Unknown

I think that the gender reveal shower is a cute idea...but:

~ If you don't want to have a shower too early and wait till you are farther along...than you have to keep a secret which would be hard to do. 

 ~ I think registering would be a little harder. You'd have to be okay with gender neutral for a lot of things

 ~ I've seen people gift boy and girl things when the couple is not finding out the gender...so this could happen and you would end up with a lot of stuff you wouldn't use and need to return

An alternative is to do a cute gender announcement photo.  If the timing is right, maybe use it for your Christmas Card? Or just post on FB.