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Am I allowed to be excited yet?

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I got my first beta on Tuesday and after some insensitive "that's really low" comments and an assumption that I was miscarrying, I was feeling pretty terrible about it being at 35, even though that's relative to...nothing. I got my second one done yesterday and it was 103! They called and said "well, it tripled..." and I said "so I'm actually pregnant, I can get excited now?" and she gave me a very long "wellllllll" followed by an explanation that it could still be a chemical since I am just now at 4 weeks, 1 day, of a cycle that's anywhere from 24-35 but has been more consistently 31 over the last 6 months or so (including between my Feb MC and the subsequent March AF) and I wasn't charting this month. We were playing "if it happens, it happens". Anyway, I get that this is good news, right? But when does it turn to great news? Once I pass the 5 week mark? After my April 23 U/S? After I pass the 8 week mark that I lost it at last time? After 12 weeks? I am finding it really challenging to be happy. And even more so since the nurses don't seem to think I should be either.
TTC since 12/12 BFP#1 1.11.13 Natural MC 2.11.13
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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    Don't ask the nurse. Just be excited. You can't jinx your pregnancy by getting excited.
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  • CNYBride05CNYBride05 member
    Be excited and celebrate each milestone!  Congrats :-)
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    Dx: balanced translocation and LPD

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    BPF 02/19/12, EDD 10/31/12, natural m/c 02/28/12 (4w6d)

    IVF (BCPs starting 10/30/12, ER 11/18/12, 5dt of 1 beautiful, healthy embryo 11/23/12)
    BFP 12/02/12, u/s @ 6w,5d showed 2 HBs! Identical twins!!
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  • bananersbananers member
    Be happy now. Your nurse's comments are obnoxious. Sure, you aren't out of the woods, but there is absolutely NOTHING indicating anything is wrong right now. Everything is on track, so you just have to take things one step at a time. Set mini-milestones f
    BFP #1 10/6/11 | EDD 6/15/12 | MMC 11/7/11 @ 8w3d | D&C 11/14/11

    BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13

    BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15

    BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d

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  • DRB7586DRB7586 member

    imagencchnat:
    If you want to be excited, be excited. Your betas are great and the nurse is a twatwaffle for trying to make you feel
    TTC since 12/12 BFP#1 1.11.13 Natural MC 2.11.13
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  • nbcarlsonnbcarlson member
    imagemagdalina.h:
    Don't ask the nurse. Just be excited. You can't jinx your pregnancy by getting excited.

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  • 74dragonfly74dragonfly member
    imagencchnat:
    If you want to be excited, be excited. Your betas are great and the nurse is a twatwaffle for trying to make you feel badl




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  • HoolahZingerHoolahZinger member
    I still can't believe this nurse would be so discouraging. Soak in the moment. Today you are pregnant and that is an incredible thing to celebrate!  
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