NBR Playboy

BabyCarryingVessel

Do any of your men get Playboy magazine? NOT talking about other dirty mags, just Playboy here. Do you have a problem with it?

MH has gotten them ever since he was a batchelor, and to this day he still receives them. All our friends and family think I should put a stop to it, but I won't and haven't. I don't think it's unhealthy for him or for our relationship, but many others disagree with my opinion. My thinking is, I knew he received them when we dated, and I agreed to marry him anyway. So why would I ask that he stop?

Last year I went on a girls only float trip with some work people and one coworker (who's single) was very openly judging someone she knew who got Playboy magazine. After listening awhile, I decided to tell her that my DH gets them and I'm okay with it, yet I still feel we have a healthy marriage. She asked me how I could allow that, and we respectfully went back and forth on the issue. Finally she ended up saying, "well if it works for you that's great". She has been weird around me ever since and we haven't been the same.

What do my BMB friends say? Let's have a respectful conversation about your experience!

On a final note, we agree that he will have to stop getting them when the girls are older. We'll cross that bridge when we get there.  

hboo2011

He does not get Playboy, but if he had gotten them before me, I would never ask him to stop. I wouldn't care if he wanted to get them now. I would read/look and enjoy just as much as he would.

wesleycrusher

DH doesn't get it, but I wouldn't see the big deal if he did.  It's tame compared to other stuff that is even more easily accessible on the internet. And that would be easier to keep hidden.  It's not like he's doing it behind your bac

wesleycrusher

Are the people against playboy against porn in general?

numberonemama

Playboy is  so tame and I barely recognize it as porn...I would have no issue with DH getting it if he wanted it.

cardiganmom

My husband doesnt get it, but if he did, I could care less. Like you said, your husband was getting it while you dated and you knew and that's who you married, so why try to change him? I hate when women have the mindset of changing the man theyre with

lady dixneuf

um, I get playboy at work

BabyCarryingVessel

Well how boring! I was thinking someone out there would argue the other side. I am respectful to those who choose not to let this in their home. I can certainly see how it would lead to problems if a man were "taking care" of himself and not seeking fu

RayT1

Ha, I guess I am the odd one out... I would not be okay with my husband having a playboy magazine. Lucky for me, I'm the only one he wants to see naked. Plus, he wouldn't have time for those kinda magazine's since he is subscribed to every hunting magaz

legalbeagle1

No Playboy, no porn, no strippers.  I wouldn't have married him if he supported those sort of things.  For me it isn't about our relationship, it is about subjugation of the women.  We can get into a much longer discussion about "ch

hboo2011

RayT1:

Ha, I guess I am the odd one out... I would not be okay with my husband having a playboy magazine. Lucky for me, I'm

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jennadoll87

I think I'll be another odd man out and admit that I wouldn't love the idea of my H looking at playboy on a regular basis. Eventhough I'd assume that playboy is more on the tame side, something about it still bothers me.

cardiganmom

mbm1983:

i don't think wanting to masturbate has anything to do with you being a good or bad wife. i kind of think of it this

RayT1

I don't have a problem with him masturbating if he needs too. Heck, I had repair surgery 4 weeks after delivery, so we didn't even try to DTD till 10 weeks PP. I just wouldn't want him thinking of another woman besides me while doing it. Maybe I'm just

lady dixneuf

legalbeagle1:

No Playboy, no porn, no strippers.  I wouldn't have married him if he supported those sort of things. 

AnotherPreggo

RayT1:

I don't have a problem with him masturbating if he needs too. Heck, I had repair surgery 4 weeks after delivery, so we

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