Is night weaning the only solution here?

skibunny59

Hi Ladies,

I am having serious sleep issues with my DD so I hope you can help me out.  DD is almost 13 months and we cosleep for part of the night.  I feel like the older she gets, the worse her sleep gets.  She is very very attached to the boob and wants to sleep with my nipple in her mouth all night long.  I put her down initially in her crib around 7.  Between 10-11 at night we bring her into bed with us.  From the time she goes down in her crib to the time she comes in bed with us she will wake up between 2-4 times.  Most of the time DH can rock her back to sleep and put her back in her crib but sometimes she won't calm down until I nurse  her.  Once she ends up in bed with us then she will nurse all night long.  If she wakes up and my boob isn't in her mouth she will cry and freak out and be looking around for my breasts.  Basically she is using me as a pacifier.  This has always been a problem since she was really little but it has gotten progressively worse.  DH suggested night weaning but I'm not sure if I'm ready to cut her off completely at night.  I don't mind nursing her at night but I can't keep doing this where she is nursing all night long.  Or maybe I just need to stop bringing her into our bed which will also be hard.

tokenhoser

When you can't live with how things are, that's when you change it. You could night wean completely, you could night wean partially (say, refuse to nurse more than twice a night, or before 2 am), or you could try to get her to stay in her crib.

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monalua

I nightweaned my son at 26 months using the Jay Gordon method and it worked wonderfully. Prior to that, even at 26 months, he still woke up every 1 to 3 hours all night to nurse. Within a few weeks of nightweaning he started sleeping through the night, an

TiffanyBerry

Around a year or year and a half, we did partial night weaning in the "no nursing between the hours of X and Y" variety.  A little while later, maybe around 2 years?, we did "only get to nurse two times in the night, then once, and - a week ago (s

bloverde

I'm reaching my limit on sleep deprivation with my cosleeping 10mo who nurses 4 times per night with me working 80 hours per week. So I'm thinking about what I want to use.

How do they know "no nursing between x and y." They do not have reaso

tokenhoser

bloverde:

How do they know "no nursing between x and y." They do not have reasonable thought process for several years, so

Superciliousness

Oh do I feel your pain on this one. Practically word for word what you wrote, we are dealing with this now.

DS is 14 months and we are going to start Jay Gordon's night weaning tonight. From other posts that I found, his method is the most g

nosoup4u

Can DH sleep with her alone if he can't get her back in her crib? Sleep at 1215 months sucked royally with both my kids. It's hard, and this probably sounds harsh, but she may have to have a few nights if cutting her off of the boob...not night weaning pe

haziedaze

I night weaned at 16mo act/13.5 adj and it's the best thing I've done. He was nursing every 1-2 hours before that and also did the freak out if he didn't have the boob thing. We followed Dr. Jay Gordon's method and it worked well. We put him down in the p

Angela814

I night weaned DD1 and DD2 at 26 and 25 months. We partially coslept with both girls. They started the night in their crib and came to bed with us at their first waking. Even after night weaning, they continued to wake up at night and needed our help to g

lizardknitter

Angela814:

I night weaned DD1 and DD2 at 26 and 25 months. We partially coslept with both girls. They started the night in the

skibunny59

lizardknitter:

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