Feel like I'm driving myself crazy (long)

Venuschild

I have been driving myself crazy the last week and thought that you ladies might be able to give me some clarity.

I have twins who turned 20 months today, I have been on spring break for the last week from teaching and am a bit of hypochondriac.  I feel like I keep going back and forth between seeing signs for ASD with my DD and then wondering if I am trying to see the signs for autism because I overly worry...

My DS has been pointing a lot and starting to say more words, and because of that I am constantly comparing my daughter to him.  Honestly sometimes I think if I didn't have him to compare her to I wouldn't even be noticing anything. 

 The biggest this is this she babbles non stop, they had their own twin language where they would talk back and forth to each other and it seems like DS is starting to let go of that twin language but she is not.  He also points a lot more than her.  She does point but not very often.  When she babbles which is very often I do frequently hear words inside the string of babble: what is it? okay, down, up, bye, hi.  She also waves at hi and bye sometimes.  I feel like she understands us too.  She knows to turn the light off and on at a switch, knows shoes mean something fun is going to happen (like we are leaving), gets excite to brush teeth, and bathe, etc.

• Makes eye contact
• Smiles & laughs
• Hugs when we come home from work
• Very attached to me, DH, and grandma
• Plays at the park and watches other kids when out and on TV
• Understands no and gets upset if in trouble

She is sorting and occasionally puts things in a line, but I have deliberately messed up her line to see if there is a tantrum and there isn't just plays with something else...

Would you be concerned?  If your child regressed was it only with words or do they regress with affection too?  Up until this week my gut was that she was fine and will pick up language more when she is ready, since she turned only 20 months today...

FWIW I have doen the M-CHAT online and it came out with a 2 for a reult which said not to worry...

Venuschild

I should add that she loves peek a boo and tag...

Thank you so much for any responses you might have, I really do appreciate it!!

lite-bright

My DD1 has autism, dx'd at age 3. She didn't really regress. With her, it was more than her language was on the slow side of normal and then instead of exploding and growing faster and faster, it kept getting slower and more repetitive/scripted until i

kcisthebombdotcom

I'm not sure based on your post what you think is a sign of autism. There are a million causes for a child to talk late and not all of them are autism.

it seems like she's coming along great developmentally and just has problems with using expres