***siggy warning** QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU DO IN THIS SITUATION?

Cranang

Ladies, I need to know what you do in new social situations.

I'm starting a new job a week from tomorrow.  And I know questions always come up about your family...you know, the "so how many kids do you have?" etc.

What do I say here?  I haven't really met many "new" people since Celeste was born.  I always try to say "My first daughter, Celeste,was stillborn and Sabrina is 17 months old."  But I know it makes people uncomfortable.  I do it because she's my daughter, and she deserves a "place" in my family.  But in a new work environment, is this something I should say from the get-go or maybe wait as to not make new people feel like I'm the new "weird" girl?  I know this seems like a silly question, but I was thinking about how I would approach this with all of these new people that I'll be talking to...

Thanks in advance.

angelsnight

I just asked MH this the other day, because like you said, you don't want to act as though your angel didn't exist, but on the other hand it can make people uncomfortable. I'd say play it by ear, there may be certain people you just immediately feel more

Williamandshawnna

I understand the feeling and it took me a long time to make my decision. Like others have said, do what is right for you in that situation.

I have chosen to tell people, when asked I simply reply that we have 3 angel babies. If they ask further q

lrichmond86

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This is always so hard. For me it's finding the balance between honoring my son and being socially appropriate, and the two just don't seem to mesh.

I usually say something like "I had a son who passed away. " T

magdalina.h

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I created a program in my son's memory so I talk about him often. For me, I put my comfort level ahead of other people's. I get asked if this current pregnancy is my first and I say 3rd. We have a lot of new people at

Heatherhah

I have a friend who tells people she has one child with feet and one with wings. People generally don't ask anything else after that. I like the way she says that because people stop to think for a minute and it gives you time to change the subjec

Noethola

I havent made any life changes, so I have rarely been faced with answering this question. However, I have talked about what I would answer would be alot with another loss mother and my DH. The other loss mom (7 yrs post loss) said that for her, sh

fluttergirlmoonchild79

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For me, I always acknowledge my son.  To me, regardless whether he's here on earth or not, he's still my son and he still existed.  I typically say "I have a son who lives in heaven. I've learned that i

Bayberry12

I haven't been in a situation like a new job or interview where I may get asked questions like that, but I think about it all the time.  Kinda of like "how do I want to shape this new life" of "how do I want to be know".

I asked a friend who

shandorfml2

since our loss I've had one person ask if I had children. I'm sure it will come up more once I'm back at work (with clients). I said we did have a daughter and she passed away. This I feel honors her existence more than saying she was stillborn. (Though I