IF support group--stay or go?

MissyNWill

I joined an infertility support group a few months ago. These ladies have been extremely helpful in helping me deal with infertility. After almost 4 years TTC, I finally felt like I found a support system of ladies who really get it. We meet monthly and email whenever we need advice or just a virtual hug. I am almost 6 weeks along, and our next meeting is coming up. I have not said anything to any of the group members. I need advice on whether or not I should continue to attend the meetings and just not share my news, just in case the unthinkable happens and I again need their support. Or do I email the leader to share my news and withdraw from the group? I want to be sensitive to these wonderful ladies first and foremost.

TJ1979

Does the group have any rules or guidelines? If these people are your friends and support group, I don't think it's a good idea to lie to them and hide your pregnancy. Bc then if the worst does happen they may be upset that you lied. Just my 2 cents. Cong

MissyNWill

Good point, TJ.  I have only attended this group for a few months, if that even matters.  I have no idea if they will feel upset that I lied or not.  I'm really torn.  I have no idea if there are any rules or guidelines.  I think

MissyNWill

MrsLee, what you are describing is exactly what I was imagining.  My biggest fear is that I will be invading the group, the only really safe zone these women have.  IF makes you feel like you can't escape pregnancy no matter where you go. &nb

Saraevh

I would just be honest, share that you are pregnant, share how much everyone and their support has meant to you and stop going to the group.  People who care to hear about how your pregnancy is going will stay in touch with you.  

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