Advice to bring DH on board?

amberyintar

Hi ladies-

I'm currently pregnant with our first (and I hope, our only). It's been an ok pregnancy, I realize it could be much worse, but I am hating being pregnant. I am an only child myself, and am very content with that. Financially, and emotionally for me, it makes sense for us to be OaD. However, DH is definitely in the "we have to have two" camp. Any ideas on how to win him over? He's an amazingly supportive husband, and I know that if I refuse to get pregnant again, he'll love me regardless- but I don't want to hurt him by refusing.

Any advice would be welcome! TIA!

eyenigh

At this point, I'd just give it some time. Get through the newborn/infant stage and see how he feels after that. My husband absolutely did not enjoy the newborn stage at all and, even though we already knew we were only having one (completely by choice),

kristennd

Frankly I think pregnancy is a bad time to discuss any sort of life changing issues if you don't have to. Although ditto the newborn time. It's not like you would be getting pregnant again any time soon anyway, so it's really better to put it off for a

JSabs09

Just wait until you have the baby and experience the first three months... he might be OaD then! I love DD but I hate sleep deprivation and she's an easy baby... you really won't know until you go through it. :

apansey87

Well, I told my husband who I love to pieces that I'd divorce him before having another, so there's that.

However numerous psych professionals say you should always go with the parent who wants less children because a child who is not wanted

Emilia0101

I always say give it time. When I was pregnant I always thought I wanted at least 2 kids. It wasn't until dd was 1.5 did I realize for me personally I couldn't do it again. I think your first year after giving birth is such an emotional ride I wouldn't

amberyintar

Thanks to all of you for your replies- some great advice in there! I appreciate it!

SmileyJay

I know how tempting it is to talk to count your eggs before they hatch. DH and I are not even TTC yet and get into hypothetical conversations about family size. I want at least 3 children (biological and adopted) and he feels he would prefer to be OAD.