Adoption

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Hi, I'm new to the board, new to the idea of adoption, and we, my husband and I, are just embarking on the journey.

I am meeting tomorrow with someone local who has been through adoption (through her church).  Our circumstances are quite different; we will be using an agency (I think!) in pursuit of a domestic adoption (I think!).  She is a friend of a friend and has suggested I come to our meeting armed with questions.  I have so many things I want to know, but I'm overwhelmed at the idea of putting pen to paper and I'm not even sure where to begin, what to ask, and expecting that each situation is unique, I wonder if meeting me is a waste of her time.

I've been referred to an out-of-state agency that works solely with couples experiencing infertility.  They take only a few clients on per year in hopes of matching with expectant birth mothers.  I'm not gonna lie, not being a small fish in a big pond appeals to me insomuch as we might not have to wait for an extended period of time to be matched.

I'm just rambling at this point, but did want to jump right in and say hello.  I'm open to any and all questions, comments and suggestions, so if you have them, have at it!

somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known. -Carl Sagan

Re: New to the Board

  • Hi and welcome!

    Ask away! It's always great to have someone you can talk to face to face about things. Even if her experience is different, it may open you up to different possibilities, or she may be able to give you resources on things she can'

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  • Thanks so much, I appreciate the welcome.

    I'm just reading over the FAQ section now.

    somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known. -Carl Sagan
  • Hi, and welcome!  If you look at the "another type of adoption" post below, you'll see some answers to the question of where/how to start.  As far as what types of questions to ask an agency, <span style="font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial

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  • Captain Serious, your list is so comprehensive, wow, thank you so much. I will definitely take everything you suggested into consideration especially as it relates to support/counseling/practices.

    At this stage, we are uncertain whether we want t

    somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known. -Carl Sagan
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  • HI guys i am new to the board.i am new to this sites.please need me some help for  review this sites.
  • Thanks, marshmallow, I'll check your link out in a few.

    I do have another question, and it's more personal than I expected to be right off the bat, but it's weighing on my mind a little bit so I'm just going to ask:

    Do you think that having

    somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known. -Carl Sagan
  • With open versus closed adoption it's best to keep an open mind, in my experience. We were very set that we were ok with open adoption, and it turned out the family we were matched with wanted a more closed situation, but may change their minds over time
  • Erin, I appreciate the feedback, I was wondering whether we said we wanted an open adoption would mean we were only matched to someone wanting the same thing; good to know that is something fluid and not a deal-breaking choice.
    somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known. -Carl Sagan
  • Welcome to the board!  I am a newbie myself! :)  It is so good to have people who have been through adoption to talk to as you are deciding how you want to proceed.  We started talking with friends and asking all of our questions a year and
    I'm a dance studio owner, writer, cat mommy, and adventuress who is married to the man of her dreams. My husband and I have had a long-time dream to adopt and it's happening in a way that we didn't quite anticipate. But, like any move of God, it's turning out way better than we expected. We'd love for you to follow our story at www.kirstenkline.com!
  • You're welcome.

    I agree with the others, keep an open mind for now about closed vs. open.  When we went into it, my husband and I had specific reasons for thinking that only a closed adoption could work for us.  It was one of many reaso

  • Agreed that most domestic agencies require at least a semi-open adoption (meaning letters and pictures sent through the agency on a schedule). An important thing to remember is that open means a LOT of things. From just that minimal contact throug

  • And now for an update from the meeting Friday with J! It was really helpful to meet her, to ask questions and hear her story and the process.  She had some good resources for me in the MD/DC area and I am going to start following up on them this w

    somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known. -Carl Sagan
  • Glad to hear the meeting went so well.  It sounds like you have a good start!
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