Hi, I'm new to the board, new to the idea of adoption, and we, my husband and I, are just embarking on the journey.
I am meeting tomorrow with someone local who has been through adoption (through her church). Our circumstances are quite different; we will be using an agency (I think!) in pursuit of a domestic adoption (I think!). She is a friend of a friend and has suggested I come to our meeting armed with questions. I have so many things I want to know, but I'm overwhelmed at the idea of putting pen to paper and I'm not even sure where to begin, what to ask, and expecting that each situation is unique, I wonder if meeting me is a waste of her time.
I've been referred to an out-of-state agency that works solely with couples experiencing infertility. They take only a few clients on per year in hopes of matching with expectant birth mothers. I'm not gonna lie, not being a small fish in a big pond appeals to me insomuch as we might not have to wait for an extended period of time to be matched.
I'm just rambling at this point, but did want to jump right in and say hello. I'm open to any and all questions, comments and suggestions, so if you have them, have at it!
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Hi and welcome!
Ask away! It's always great to have someone you can talk to face to face about things. Even if her experience is different, it may open you up to different possibilities, or she may be able to give you resources on things she can'
Thanks so much, I appreciate the welcome.
I'm just reading over the FAQ section now.
Hi, and welcome! If you look at the "another type of adoption" post below, you'll see some answers to the question of where/how to start. As far as what types of questions to ask an agency, <span style="font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial
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Captain Serious, your list is so comprehensive, wow, thank you so much. I will definitely take everything you suggested into consideration especially as it relates to support/counseling/practices.
At this stage, we are uncertain whether we want t
Thanks, marshmallow, I'll check your link out in a few.
I do have another question, and it's more personal than I expected to be right off the bat, but it's weighing on my mind a little bit so I'm just going to ask:
Do you think that having
You're welcome.
I agree with the others, keep an open mind for now about closed vs. open. When we went into it, my husband and I had specific reasons for thinking that only a closed adoption could work for us. It was one of many reaso
Agreed that most domestic agencies require at least a semi-open adoption (meaning letters and pictures sent through the agency on a schedule). An important thing to remember is that open means a LOT of things. From just that minimal contact throug
And now for an update from the meeting Friday with J! It was really helpful to meet her, to ask questions and hear her story and the process. She had some good resources for me in the MD/DC area and I am going to start following up on them this w