WWYD?

k&a521

I might get flamed for this, but I need some advice.  Over the weekend, we announced to some family members that we were expecting.  Everyone was really excited except my aunt, who is 42 and has older children.  She just got married a few months ago and has been talking about wanting another baby.  She has a low paying job and lost her license a year ago from DUIs.  My grandmother and I drive her to work.

 She went to the bathroom, started crying her eyes out, and ignored me for the rest of the day.I feel bad because I know she wants a baby.  But I also feel awkward around her now because she made a big scene at the party.  I want to be sensitive to her, and everyone keeps saying "she shouldn't have a baby anyway considering her situation". But obviously, that doesn't change how she feels about it.  Admittedly, I don't know that it's a great idea also since she's proven herself to be very irresponsible on many occasions.  I feel bad because I was sort of annoyed with her for acting that way, but at the same time, I understand if she really feels that way.

How can I be sensitive to her?  Any suggestions of things I can say?  Or should I just drop it and act like it didn't happen?  I feel like it's only going to get more awkward as the pregnancy progresses.

wendy2613

You could always let her know that you having a baby doesn't affect whether she has another one or not. Or just not talk about your pregnancy to her. But I wouldn't edit your conversations with others just becuase she's there either.. GL

AnsbyGamber

wendy2613:

You could always let her know that you having a baby doesn't affect whether she has another one or not. Or just not

LuClo

As someone who lived with infertility for a long time, it is incredibly difficult for any woman who wants a child and isn't able to have one and it makes no difference how 'deserving' she is.  I would avoid any/all discussion about whether she 'sh

NReamer

Ummm.... That is awkward. I don't think it's your problem at all and she doesn't get the right to steal your joy! Just ignore it.

k&a521

LuClo:

As someone who lived with infertility for a long time, it is incredibly difficult for any woman who wants a child and isn't