Weird situation - having a hard time letting go..

crene84

So, if any of you read my posts last Aug/Sept, you might remember how the very first day we activated our profile on parentprofiles, we were contacted by a young couple in AZ.  Things escalated really fast..we even did a video chat with the expectant parents.  We figured it was a sign and that this was definitely our baby. We were on cloud 9.  Things definitely unraveled fast though. The one downside was that she was only 7 weeks so we wanted to be cautious, but then she ended up telling me the BF hit her, and she didn't have a safe place to stay. She wanted to move in with us.  All the while, we were contacted by DD's BM which was a much better situation.  I ended the match with the couple from AZ but it was painful on both sides and I haven't stopped thinking about them.  Well, I've been FB stalking since I knew she was due early April.  She had the baby and ended up keeping her!  She got back with the father a few months ago.

I can't help but wonder if they would have made that choice if we had stayed matched..or if they were so comfortable with us that they would have placed. Part of me looks at the pictures of this baby and thinks "wow this could have maybe been my baby."  I feel a little guilty because I think that this baby may have been in a better situation with us.  Before I get flamed, I know it's not my place to judge, but I do know there is a possibility of abuse and definitely some drug use in that relationship..but regardless, they may not have ended up placing with us anyhow even if we had stayed matched.

I just can't stop looking for more pics of this baby.  I know it may sound weird, but it's just a strange situation I guess. Maybe some of you with failed matches can relate. 

Quick Edit - I don't mean to imply that this situation is in any way as painful as your failed matches..I just meant that in some ways maybe you could relate.

ellekae

I remember when all that was happening... It certainly is a unique situation. My advice is not from adoption experience, but I'll toss in my two cents anyway.

I interviewed for my dream job three years ago, got called back for a second interview,

crene84

Thank you.

Mush-Tastic

I totally understand. I literally just FB stalked a similar situation we were involved in back in October that fell through. Hard to see pictures and think on it. Even though we both have the children we are meant to have now, doesn't mean it doesn't stil

IRR

I would look at this a totally different way.  Thank goodness you ended that match because you have now have had 6+ months with your beautiful daughter and this couple may have strung you along until the hospital and then told you they were going to

crene84

Mush - Thanks, I figured someone here might have a similar situation.

IRR - Yes, I completely agree.  We may have avoided what could have been an extremely painful situation.  It's hard to explain though

silliestbunny

Crene- I agree w/IRR that you should be thankful that you unmatched!  My guess is that they would have parented/she would have parented.

That said, I've seen pics of one (possibly two... not sure if second picture is the person or not) that