Attachment Parenting

Feeling like I'm not good enough

I've been doing my best to raise my boys and they seem healthy and happy. I'm grateful I stumbled on AP when my first was just a few weeks old. It's really guided me in the early stages. But I'm really struggling with being a parent to a preschooler. I feel I'm yelling way too much and just feeling angry a lot of the time. I know preschoolers test boundaries but I don't like the parent I am. I've read 123 magic, unconditional parenting and a couple others. I just find I don't have patience or energy to implement some of their ideas. DS1 doesn't seem to respond so I get frustrated and start yelling. Any suggestions on what I can do to improve things? Is parenting just very very hard and i need to suck it up and just stop yelling? I love my kids and can use all the advice I can get. Thx!
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Re: Feeling like I'm not good enough

  • I found the most important way to get rid of the anger was to change my expectations.  I need to EXPECT her to try to break the rules.  I need to EXPECT her to melt down (in some fashion) when she doesn't get her way.  I need to EXPECT h

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  • Parenting is really hard!! At the same time I agree with pp that sometimes our emotional responses are about our expectations.

    I wrote a post a couple of weeks back because I was raging at my 3 yr old pretty much every day. It was becoming a habi

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  • I have a mouthy teenager testing her boundaries right now and pushing all of my buttons, so I definitely sympathize with you.  Sometimes it's really hard to stay calm.  I have to take a step back and look at my behavior, too.  I'm not

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    Thanks for your replies! Sorry I wasn't clear but my toddler is fine it's my 3.5 yo that drives me nuts! I think it's because he asks for too much tv, doesn't eat great, and i need to ask him 10 times to do something or stop doing something. Trying to j
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    Thanks for your replies! Sorry I wasn't clear but my toddler is fine it's my 3.5 yo that drives me nuts! I think it's
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  • I struggle with being patient every single day. DS1 has (sort of) grown out of the giant temper tantrums, but DS2 is now starting to have them. They both do things that completely drive me crazy, and I have to remember that they are just kids. Three wa

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  • It's hard being a parent, being patient and well just surviving the day to day surprises of having kids.  I say surprises because who really knows when the kids will decide to dump every toy just after you picked up, as you are trying to stay awak

  • I have a 1-year old so I don't have much advice for you.  BUT, I can tell you that you're doing a great job and just the fact that you came on here shows that you're a good mom.  I hope you're able to find solutions that feel better to you. &nbs
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    Thanks for all Ur support ladies! Yesterday I really tried to look at why I get so angry about things and I realized its because I really need structure and order in my life. And we know kids don't always do what they are "supposed" to do. So I tried to
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  • The book "Bhuddism for Mothers of Small Children" has helped me a lot. I'm not Bhuddist but I see so much value in its practice. I reread the book when in feeling particularly flustered. Just reading a few pages helps me calm and approach my toddler with
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    The book "Bhuddism for Mothers of Small Children" has helped me a lot. I'm not Bhuddist but I see so much value in its
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