Need some help here

fivefeetsmall · April 2013

DD is nine days old today and due to circumstances we live with my parents. This has proven to be a blessing and burden all at once. First off, we cosleep by way of a rock and play by my bed, I exclusively breast feed, and believe strongly that newborns have emotional needs that need to be met thru talking to them, cuddling, rocking, etc. I plan to baby wear but my dr has asked me not to until I get cleared as I had a very rough delivery.
When I say anything about being tired, my mom makes snide comments about how it's my fault I'm tired because I insist on being the only one feeding her and won't pump or allow formula. Why would I pump when we have no issues and my supply is just right? I don't want to screw around with something that isn't broken.
In addition, I offer for others to hold her and my mom takes it as me not wanting to hold her and made the comment last night that I should just put her in her swing or something. I replied that I didn't have an issue snuggling her, but that I wanted to share. She goes... Well she doesn't always need to be held you know and she's going to get used to this and spoiled. She also says I need to train her now to not want to be held. I got really pissed and said that the newborn stage is not the time to train a baby and that I want her to feel safe and secure. I also plan to baby wear when I can so its not like I am going to be unable to get things done. The comments just keep coming... Like that I'll see when she's 6 months and won't allow me to put her down. Am I wrong here? If not what can I say without getting ugly to my mom?
With all of that said... I can feed her, change her, and cuddle for a few minutes before putting her in her rock and play then she looks around for a few minutes and goes right to sleep. I feel like I'm giving her the right amount of space versus nurturing.

ForeverEverAfter · April 2013

I love our moms, but the ones that didn't breastfeed really don't get it. My mom came to stay first and she was a huge help with CDing and BFing bc she did it too. My stepmom lives nearby and totally doesn't get it. She often recommended leaving LO to

RioG1978 · April 2013

oh sh*t, ignore every piece of advice that ever says you can spoil your newborn. I am typing this as my 10 month old is playing independently beside me - heck, half the time she's busy crawling off to another room without me! She has never

LatteLady5 · April 2013

letranger:
Babies are only little once. Who wouldn't want to snuggle them.

Seriously. I don't think a

neverblushed · April 2013

Your mom is of a different generation. Every new generation of parents has to withstand this type of criticism from their own parents as times change.

My mom thought it was ridiculous that I waited until 12 mon