Need help...3 kids (5,3,1) and pregnant again after vasectomy failed

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My sweet baby girl just turned 1 a week ago. My husband got a vasectomy 6 weeks after she was born. We were very sure we were done having more kids. We are in the .6% who get pregnant even though he had a clear sperm sample at 3 months. I am so upset right now! I had moved on with my life and made plans for the future. I feel like I am so done with the little kids stage and being needed NON Stop. I love my children more than anything in the world, but I am not sure I can do it again. My fear is that I will resent this child and worry about being depressed. It isn't just the selfish personal reasons, but even the cost of having another in daycare for 5 more years. Anyone gone through this? I feel horrible for hoping for a miscarriage. I am 6 weeks. 

MesmrEwe

There's always adoption!  But ask yourself, who is going to be a better parent than you would be to this LO...  Cut yourself some slack!  I know at least two other families that have had the same thing happen as you did.  In one cas

DonnaMartinGraduates

I was in your shoes a few months ago when I found out I was pregnant. We were absolutely sure that we were done at 2 kids. DH was about to get a vasectomy and then BAM! Pregnant.

i was in total shock. I wanted to sit on the couch all day and cry,

aglenn

I'm not in your situation but it is one of my greatest fears, so I can empathize and sort of imagine how you must be feeling.  I am very done after 2 kids but cannot take hormonal BC due to a history of blood clots... had a paragard but my body re

stever

I have no advice but hope everything works out.

brauchtm

I am sorry for all that you are going through.  My sister was in a similar situation and I won't lie it took her almost a year and some drugs to get not a better emotional place about it.  But you know what  - now she is beyond thrilled wit

itsmevkb

Right about a year ago this time I found out that I was pregnant with our fourth.  I had a 5 year-old, a 3 year-old and a not even 1 year-old at home at the time.  My husband and I have experienced infertility, I was over 40 and we were using

CheezeFace

Being pregnant is full of emotions. I can imagine being surprised pregnant adds to the the heightened emotions.  I'm sorry you are confused and scared and shocked.

I think what you are feeling is normal and I'm sure you will go through all t

ilovemygirls

I think all of your feelings are very normal.  When you take permanent steps to avoid pregnancy, your family is complete in your mind. I actually know several people this happened to, which is why I still have an IUD after my DH got his vas, but I kn

gimmietimmies

Hello!! Not sure how I missed this post. I've been a bit busy lately. I am in that little percentage too that got pregnant after a vasectomy. DH got snipped when K was a few weeks old, and had the all clear even six months and one year post. Notice in

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What about adoption? Hugs!