Post-Pregnancy Body

Lbible1

I have a very embarrassing topic, but I'm pretty desperate for advice. I gave birth last May and had a very long, difficult delivery (I pushed for three hours). He was finally born and I tore, which resulted in stitches. Overall, I've been okay with my body after giving birth; however, I still don't look the same "down there." Everyone told me that everything would go back to normal after having a baby, but I haven't completely experienced that. My husband and I are able to have intercourse without problems and I have been examined by my ob/gyn twice. Both times she said I am fine. I'm just looser and (yes, I'm embarrassed to say I looked, but I did) and have more "bumps" or something. I also have a harder time controlling gas, etc. Sometimes I wish that I had just had a c-section so I wouldn't be so different. In a sense I am proud of myself for giving birth to a new human and for losing all of my baby weight (44 lbs.). It's just different, though. Does anyone have any advice? Have you dealt with this before? I feel really alone, because this obviously isn't something that people talk about much. Thank you in advance for any responses.

bellelamb

hugs* you are not alone! No it doesn't go back to the same as before baby or at least I never did and I never tore and had a midwife who did everything to keep me from tearing. Kegals help the muscles inside get tighter again which helps you feel more

Lbible1

Thanks for responding! That makes me feel a little better! I've lost some control of the muscles. It's not serious, but it's still an annoyance. It's good to know I'm not alone!

ELF4321

In spite of my midwife's best efforts, I had second degree tearing from two hours of pushing DDs giant head out. Afterwards, I did kegels like you're supposed to but still suffered several episodes of anal incontinence. Yes, that's right, I crapped my pa

RMama2012

I hate to admit this because I am so proud of my natural birth but I am in the same boat.  I'm slowly getting over it.  I would consider doing something about it but we'll see how I feel after a second.  I have no advice really because I

hopefulmom81

bellelamb:

hugs* you are not alone! No it doesn't go back to the same as before baby or at least I never did and I never tore

ebl2

Super embarrassing but if I can't confide to my other May Mommas after all we've been through together then who can I? I am suffering from a prolapsed bladder due to my delivery. I had a super easy delivery too, I pushed for less than 10 minutes and I

desertsun

I had a c-section and haven't had any issues, but another of my mama friends told me this DVD was helpful for her:

https://www.amazon.com/Hab-It-Pelvic-Tasha-Mulligan/dp/

lalafirefly27

I still pee a little when I sneeze it sucks lol.

Saraevh

You are so not alone!  

I got a 4th degree tear with my May baby and have had problems with my vag ever since!  My doc said eventually (when I'm done having children) I will need to have plastic surgery to repair it.  Not only do I

Lbible1

Thank you all SO much for your responses. While I'm sorry that you all have struggled, too, I'm thankful to know that I'm not alone! Women don't usually don't about it, so it's hard to understand that things are normal and I'm not weird.

tbmadeamistake

Same kind of issues over here.  My OB recommended Step Free Vaginal Weights.  They look like a plastic tampon but you put weights in them.  Use for 15 minutes a day and move up weights when you can.  They've been helping me out and I'm