Tips: Talking health with parents tonight

mightmom13

For the first time since the one-sided blow-out with my mom and the comment of "my head is still in the sand about all this" from my dad well over a month ago - I am sitting down with my parents to talk about DDs health. I would like them to be on board or at least supportive (even in just giving meds if I am not here) of everything going on.

The new news will be the need for an orthodic evaluation which I am worried that my mom will flip out on (when I was little, "leg braces" were a big fear of my mom's - though I never needed them). DD is also delayed in speech, gross motor, adaptive skills (everything but cognitive basically) with autism syptoms noted by multiple MDs/therapists, has GERD or EoE (waiting for diagnostic criteria), feeding issues motor wise, they want an EEG done, etc. So a lot to cover. I am trying to consolidate and have facts in front of me so this does not turn emotional. I have done the math and moving is not possible nor would it be financially smart in the long run even though we do pay rent here.

Any tips? I have read over some sites on autism/grief/talking to loved ones - but still fear an emotional blow out or my mom just getting up and saying as before - I am not going to talk about this.

Either way I am going forward with care, however, DD's will suffer if I have to pull back on their care time with DD living here or not - if they choose to be un-supportive.

JoJoGee

I don't have any tips.  It sounds like you have a good start though.  I just wanted to say that I hope it goes better than last time and I will be thinking good thoughts.

mightmom13

-auntie-:

I wonder if it would be useful to create a set of short informational pamphlets to offer- or even copies of any phys

ToastieSimons

1) do not go in on the defensive or offensive.  I treated it as a "press announcement".  I opened with my parents that this is not a discussion of what we should or shouldn't be doing, but this is a discussion of what we ARE doing.  I ma

tuicatmama

Good luck. 

I agree with pp about the "first stage of grief".

I also agree with the idea of presenting the information in a fact-based way, and in having things written down.

I really hope that no one leaves or ends the conversat