Opinions

BridetobeLilly

So my baby shower will be all girls, I don't like the whole guy and girl thing a lot of people are doing now a days.. Anyways. Dh doesn't want to come because its all girls which is fine, but I'm trying to talk him into coming at a time that we tell him and have him sit with me and open presents and then help take them to my car for me then he can leave. What's your opinions?? He says he doesn't wanna be center of attention but I'd feel a lot better if he was there with me for that, because it for OUR baby and I'd like him to be there to see what we get and everything.

ordinary1

I don't think he needs to be there for gift opening. I would just tell him to pick you up 10 or so minutes before everyone leaves to pack the car and say thank you.

Wish82

I do not expect, nor want, my H to go to any of my showers. I feel it would be awkward. I am, however, insisting he come for the last part of the family shower just to help pack up the car, but more to see his side of the family that attends for a moment

EastCoastBride

It's "fine" that he doesnt want to come, but you want to make him come? The gift opening is the point of the shower. To say come "just" for that is coming for the shower.

Yes, the gifts are for both of you, but the shower is for you. Go enjo

girlmama83

It's so interesting to see how different we all think! My shower will be all female family members and friends but DB will also be there. He never questioned it and just assumed its something he should be a part of and I kind of just assumed so also so I

EastCoastBride

lindsey61811:

While I do think the husband, boyfriend, whoever should be there, if he wants to be of course, I don't agree

ShakeUpTampa

You don't want co-ed so don't push him. My DH never likes to be the center of attention but some of my best guy friends were so hurt I didn't have a co-ed bridal shower with the 50's theme and one will be the godfather it was agreed upon way back then

Carnation77

What did he do for your bridal shower?  I would think it would go about the same.

tmccord21

The past baby showers i've been to the DH drops the mom off at the venue (unless its at your own house) and usually just does a quick run around of hellos. Then leaves and comes back at the very end to load up the gifts.

cinderin

Things I am willing to force DH to do: 

Be present at the birth, change diapers, wash the baby, get up with the baby at night, participate in parenting decisions, etc.

 

Things I am not willing to force DH to do:

Be a

KatFCo

If I went to a shower where the FTB showed up just for the gift opening (as in, skipped mingling, any games, etc.) it would strike me as very focused on the gifts. Like they just wanted the stuff and were ignoring the people who had come. And if he did

BeckyTheEngineer

Don't *make* him go.  Seriously, he'd be the only guy there in a room full of women, and would be basically the center of attention.  I think asking him if he wants to stop by at the last 5 minutes to greet his family a load gifts if fine, if he

Liz4444

Yes, it is both of your baby, but it is a party for you. Don't force him to go.

LorMor

It was really fun and helpful going through the gifts with my DH after the shower, kind of like " reliving" it.

EastCoastBride

cinderin:

Things I am willing to force DH to do: 

Be present at the birth, change diapers, wash the baby, get up wi

Meery82

tmccord21:

The past baby showers i've been to the DH drops the mom off at the venue (unless its at your own house) and usually

rhubarb123

A fiend of mine had/made her DH come to an all womens shower (she said he wanted to come) but you could tell he felt very awkward and acted like he wanted to be ANY place other then at that shower opeing gifts. I felt awkward FOR him. :-)

To t

Cangel24

MrsLee04:

I can't blame him for not wanting to be at a women-only party.  I think it needs to be women-only without him,

cutebride73

I guess I find it odd that anyone's DH or DTB would be so insistent about NOT coming or stopping by the baby shower, all women or not. I mean some of the women there will most likely be his family and people he knows. It's not like you are asking him t

BridetobeLilly

We talked an he decided on coming........ When I said I wanted him to come wasn't meaning I was going to fight with him about it it just meant I was going to get opinions to tell him. Thanks though...............