Any young mothers feel old?

FierceSymone

This post if for young mothers. You don't have to be a 'teen mom'. You can be in your early 20's or so even.

 I am a young mother in my early 20's. My fiance and I have two children. After having my first child at 18, I quickly took on the mother/adult role. I eventually earned a good job in the financial industry and we were able to get a nice home in the city. It definitely wasn't a piece of cake; we had to work hard. But now, I feel like I am going through some sort of a 'crisis', if you will. I feel so old. I no longer have any friends over the years. My fiance and I are best friends. Sometimes I get down not having any sort of female friendships though. I also just don't even feel my age. I feel so much older and it's not a good feeling. When I think about it, it's like wow, I am just 22 years old. But I feel like I am so much older. I have been feeling like I haven't accomplished anything that I want to do in my life. I am in college as well, pusuing my degree, but for some reason I don't feel  motivated anymore. It's really hard to get across what I'd like to express, so I do apologize if my thoughts are all over the place. I just don't have anyone to talk to and needed to reach out to some other mothers. I don't feel youthful. I feel unsexy, not very confident, and just tired all of the time. I don't know what to do and how to come out of this rut. Being able to take care of my family is a great thing, but I feel like there is something missing in my life, as far as fulfilling my life's purpose. And for some reason, I feel too 'old' to do anything. Gosh, I wsh I didn't feel this way!

juniper19

Do you have time/resources to see a counselor of some kind? It sounds like you're depressed, which makes total sense considering the amount of responsibility you have. Caring for two young kids, having a job, going to school - that's so hard. And while it

FrickandFrack

I'm 29 so not young per say but I do understand how you are feeling. I got married at 22, had DS1 at 25 and DS2 at 29. I was the first of my friends to get married and have kids and my friends quickly dropped off. I would suggest having a little "me" time

meg_2006

I make myself do something to feel young again...because I am. I was an athlete in HS and college, so now I play rec league indoor soccer at the Y. It reminds me of my glory days and my old life! I balked at first, thinking those days are behind me and it

FierceSymone

juniper19:

Do you have time/resources to see a counselor of some kind? It sounds like you're depressed, which makes total sens

FierceSymone

kfrix13:

I'm 29 so not young per say but I do understand how you are feeling. I got married at 22, had DS1 at 25 and DS2 at 29

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CTGirl30:

Do you mind if a 34 yr old mother offers some words here? I think you have a LOT on your plate to begin with, wha

FrickandFrack

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meg_2006:

I make myself do something to feel young again...because I am. I was an athlete in HS and college, so now I play rec

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kfrix13:

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nanabanana06

I am 23 and a mom of 2 kids. I have no friends beyond my DH's friends and the internet. I am a stay at home mom now, but am starting school to become a nurse soon. I have days of feeling like you, add in being far too overweight and "broken" for my age

SandiaPinaMama

I got married at 18, and although we put off children, I understand. I am struggling right now about what to do with myself. You're on the right path though since you acknowledge that you need to change something. BTW, it took me about a month to love and

JenninMA

I can't say I relate to what you're going through (I'm an old lady at 40 ), but I think most moms struggle to regain a sense of self while taking care of young kids, so you aren't alone in that. And, coming from the other side of things- and nearly all