Late Term and Child Loss

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We lost our son Tristan 3.28.13 at 31 weeks. He had trisomy 18 and he was born to heaven. I woke up yesterday like any other day when my DH kissed me goodbye on his way to work. About 15 minutes later I felt a pop and my water broke. I called my husband and he came back and we went to the hospital after we got everything packed. I had nothing ready because I was only 31 weeks, we were def not expecting to have him so soon. I was checked shortly after I got to the hospital around 8, and I was only 1 fingertip dilated. Checked again around 2 and I was 1.5cm. I was stalling on getting the epidural because this was my first pregnancy so I had no idea how it would feel. Finally decided to get it around 4 cause they were starting to be somewhat painful. By the time they came to give me the shot the contractions were pretty unbearable. Around 5 the dr came to check me and I was FULLY dilated! Omg, I was scared!!! So I started pushing shortly after that, 4 sets of 3 pushes and Tristan was out. He was born at 6:08pm weighing 3.1lbs, 15.5 inches. His face was already blue and he never took a breath. We were able to spend about 23 hours with him until we took him to be cremated. This is our first night without him since before I was pregnant. I'm so heartbroken and scared. We love and miss him so very much.

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  • I'm so sorry for the loss of your son and I love his name! We lost our daughter to Trisomy 18 as well and I wish I would have spent more time with her after delivery like you did. Big hugs to you and your DH!
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  • I'm so sorry to welcome you here and am sorry for the loss of your sweet Tristan. I feel honored to share a special day with him - March 28 is my birthday. I lost my son, Devon, in August [but to a placental abruption], and I remember the first few day


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  • I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious Tristan.  Welcome - I hope you'll find support here.
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  • I'm so very sorry for the loss of your son Tristan.  I hate that anyone has to be here, but it's a comforting place and I hope you're able to find some peace.  I'm glad you got to spend some precious time with your son, the hours we were able to
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  • So sorry for your loss of Tristan. I am so glad that you got so much time with him. You will never forget those moments (even if you start worrying you will). We hope you use this board as support and any other way you may need.
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  • I'm so sorry Tristan is not here with you. It's just not fair. I am glad you were able to spend that time with him, I just wish it was longer.
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  • So sorry for the loss of your little boy Tristan. It's not fair that any of us need to be here, but the board is full of support

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  • I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet son Tristan. I hate toh ave to welcome you here but please know we are all here for you and know exactly what you are going through.


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  • I just wanted to thank everyone for being so welcoming. You ladies are all so wonderful and I wish none of us had to be part of the group.
  • I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your son, Tristan.  I wish you didn't have to be here, but you've come to a great place for support.  I don't know how I would've gotten this far without the support from this group.  I will keep you a
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