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First month TTCAL

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I'm sure this isn't a unique feeling but I still feel it would be helpful to talk. When we first lost the pregnancy at 8 weeks on February 11 we were talking about TTC again within about 4 days of miscarrying. How soon we could start, how it might happen really quickly again (it happened in the first month the first time) and I was so eager that I bought a BBT and a pack of Wondfo ovulation strips. I used these things the month after I miscarried because I wanted to see if my cycle was progressing normally and it did. Our plan was to start trying after my first period. I got AF exactly when I would've if the first day of the miscarriage was the first day of my period. Anyways, here I am, day 14 of the first month following my first AF, and I'm scared. I'm not temping, I'm not checking CM, I'm not using the strips. We're having plenty of unprotected sex because we want to, rather than timing things or whatever. Someone said we shouldn't try again until we were sure that we'd "be ok if it happened again". Who can say that? Of course I don't think I'll be ok if it happens again. Whether that's now or 2 years from now it would still be awful. I'm just feeling like I've lost myself in this whole process. It's hard to identify exactly what these feelings are :/
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  • bunnybun4bunnybun4 member

    I think that everything you are feeling is very normal.

    And you are right, I don't think any of us are "ok" with the thought of  reliving another nightmare of losing a baby.  Here is a better way to think about it: Several times on this

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  • TheSnowChildTheSnowChild member
    Don't be afraid to try.  I don't think you'll be here long.  Good luck!
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  • dragonfly711dragonfly711 member
    I am so with you!!! I a waiting for A F to come so we can try again. It will be 5 weeks on Friday since DnC. So praying it comes soon!!! I hate waiting.
    I have been so emotional and irritable the past few days hoping that means she is coming soon.
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  • heather52904heather52904 member
    I think what you are feeling is very normal. I agree none of us are "ok" with the thought of another loss.  As PPs said, the advice often give here is that you are ready when your desire to have a baby outweighs the fear. It is okay if you are not r

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    Several times on this board I have seen people say, "You are ready to try again when your desire for another chil

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  • alitavsalitavs member
    Hi! I'm starting my 2nd cycle ttc after my loss today af just showed. I understand how you feel and get scared too, but i want a baby :... Best of luck and hope you dont have to be here long... Fx for you!
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  • daisy19782011daisy19782011 member

    I think that all you are feeling is normal and I have alot of the same feelings as well. We are proceeding after the recommended 2 months TTA  b/c I know in my heart I want to be a mom, but I know I will be scared when it does happen again. I also

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  • limeblue44limeblue44 member

    I was in that very same boat in February. We lost our first pregnancy in January and I got AF exactly 28 days after. We were given the green light by my DR to try as soon as possible. My DH starting talking about TTC immediately - he said we have waite

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  • DRB7586DRB7586 member

    Thanks for all the kind words ladies. 2WW I suppose.

     

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