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Newbie needs support

GetwickMomGetwickMom
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Hi all

I'm new to this board, and the Bump. I'm 30, my FI is 32 and we are getting married in October (currently live together).

My FI was diagnosed with azoospermia in November. He's had a testicular scan and there are no physical abnormalities, so the doctors think that it could have been caused by his athletic career (he used to use banned substances) or a case of the mumps when he was 16. At the moment three spermiograms have confirmed that no sperm were present in his samples.

Right now we are in a holding pattern-- his Urologist said we need to wait 1 year to see if the steroid effects will dissipate before starting therapy with an RE.

My older sister is pregnant and announced yesterday that she's having a girl and giving the child my name (also a family name) as her middle name. I know this comes up a lot, and I don't think I can "claim" a name-- but this is actually MY name, and ideally I would like the option (and even planned) on using it myself. I haven't said anything because I am genuinely happy for her and don't want to cause problems, but I am upset that she didn't even ask me how I felt about it first before announcing. Advice/experiences appreciated.

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  • hmz819hmz819 member
    I'm not understanding why you couldn't still use the name since its a middle name. I'd still use it.

    As for your FI troubles. I'm sorry to hear that. I hope the therapy the docs are giving him help.

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    Beta 1-237.9, Beta 2-566, Beta 3-8657
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    US 7w1d no more heartbeat/ D&C 11/30/12 normal karyotype
    IVF#3 Mar 2013
    6R/4M/4F 1 compacting and 2-8 cell transfer
    ectopic pg MTX given 3 month break from TTC

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  • GetwickMomGetwickMom

    Thanks for the response- you're right we can probably still use it if and when we get a BFP. I do feel weird about that because its an unusual name, but I can't expect my sister's life to wait for my 'imaginary child" to appear.

    I'm probably

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  • cdlane83cdlane83 member
    I completely understand why you are upset.  Would you feel comfortable discussing it with your sister?  You would have to tell her about your difficulties conceiving, but you could explain that you were planning on using the name for yourself.&n
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  • melkel559melkel559 member
    From a fellow male factor IFer to another, I just wanted to say that I am sorry for the DX. I understand how hard it is and I am sure waiting a year is not the plan you wanted..and I'm sure it's not "God's plan" either..I hate when people say that ugh!!!
    TTC since June 2011
    DX: DH (30) severe MFI, severely low count & low motility
    Me (32): all clear
    Appt with Urologist 5/21/12: exam, ultrasound, bloodwork all normal.
    Testicular Biopsy with TESE on 6/8/12. good sperm found! (left side only) froze sperm, failed thaw test :(
    Orientation for IVF/ICSI on 6/13/12. Waiting for the green light following biopsy results...results show adequate sperm production both sides.
    2nd SA 6/18/12: sample is "adequate for ICSI"
    Plan: IVF/ICSI July 2012!
    ER: 7/26/12. 15 eggs retrieved, all mature.
    TESE/TESA/aspiration from epididymis, no motile sperm found :(
    froze all eggs, the saga of praying for good sperm continues.
    8/3/12: 2nd opinion from MFI uro on biopsy slides. Suspects "partial late maturation arrest."
    Plan: more SAs, third biopsy/TESE with frozen back-up either from DH or DS.
    SA 8/17/12: Zero sperm
    SA 8/23/12: Zero sperm
    9/26/12: SPERM FOUND! 15 eggs thawed, 12 survived and were ICSI'd, only 3 fertilized normally. Refrozen as embies and will thaw in Nov. Please survive and grow!
    All 3 survived the thaw on 11/15/12!
    FET 11/17/12: transferred 2, one 4B, one 4C. Beta 11/30:BFFN
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  • GetwickMomGetwickMom

    Thank you all, I'm so glad that I found this board!

     FI and I live in South Africa, so we're half a world away from my family and friends and I think that made the DX even harder. and i havent really talked/cried about it with anyone before

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  • pbj1975pbj1975
    Oh I'm so sorry that you're going through this. IF is an awful thing. I hope you find a way to stay sane. Hugs!
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  • firesirenfiresiren member
    Welcome from another MFI'er.  We are practically azoo as the few sperm DH has can't produce embryos.  Good luck to you.
     36 DH 33 TTC for over 3 years
    First mini-IVF Sept 2011... Only 1 egg! ... BFN
    Switching RE
    IVF#2 May 2012 9 eggs and only 2 sperm, WTH!
    BFN
    IVF #3 March 2013~Tesa with back-up Donor Sperm,Tesa, unsuccessful used DS~ Chemical :(   

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    2 frosties waiting for us, November 2013!!!!!   Transferred 2 "average" blasts 11/20/2013
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  • NJHopefulNJHopeful member
    MIF SUCKS. Surprised they are waiting a year since new sperm generates every three months?
    TTC for baby #1 since March 2012 DH SA- ZERO Jan 2013, Low T, started clomid. Up and down swimmies since. Me- Ovulation dysfunction, low progesterone, hormone levels all off http://babydreamsinnj.blogspot.com
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