Parenting after 35

Being cool with being done

I think I'm finally coming round to the idea that my family may be complete. I wasn't really sure I wanted any before I TTC'd DS1. I wasn't really sure I wanted another until I decided to TTC DS2. Right after I had DS2 I wanted another. Like, I had the serious baby rabies.

BUT... But, I'm almost 40, I'm disabled, I'm tired(stupid teething f'ing with my awesome sleeper) and I'm already so stinkin' lucky to have been blessed with my boys.

I think I'm done, I really do, but there is this a bit of, um, longing.

No point to this post, just putting it out there.

Re: Being cool with being done

  • I think the 'longing' is natural for a lot of people.  I had my 3rd last May at the age of 42.  I would love to have a 4th, but I feel like the risks are too great due to my age.  I think your attitude is good; focus on being grateful for t
  • DH and I always agreed that we would be one and done. I definitely don't think I have the energy for another, but I still get a little wistful thinking about how fast DD is changing and that I'll never get to experience each stage again. I just try to be


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  • I was done after DS but we wanted him to have a sibling.  I wasn't really putting much effort into TTC but #2 is on the way and I am excited.  But we are definitely done after this.  I am sure I will have the longing too.  But it is ok

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    I think a longing can be very normal.  It doesn't necessary mean you are ready for and have the resources to have another child.  It just means your wistful.  I don't think there's a moment when you go Ah-Ha - my family is complete. &nbs

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  • I can absolutely relate.  I thought I was one and done, got pregnant with DD2 who is now a week old, and suddenly feel wistful that I had my tubes tied.  I am also longing for a third as I am immensely enjoying our 2 daughters, but I know deep i
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  • After two, DH and I were on the fence with having a third.  We went for it and now I can say for certain I am cool with being done.  I am 41 and tired, and it is sooooo hard being outnumbered.  I feel much different now than I did after two
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    DH and I always agreed that we would be one and done. I definitely don't think I have the energy for another, but I s
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