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kr1814

Hi all,

 

I'm just started lurking and figured I'd introduce myself.  I live in NJ, married, and have 1 son who was 2 in January.  I always envisioned having two kids but I think we are hopping on the one and done train.  I love my son with all my heart, but am not sure I really want another.  I feel like our family is complete this way.  Also, I have a very opposite work schedule from my husband and he is home with my son 3-4 days a week.  I am a teacher and he travels for work Fridays-Mondays.  It def adds a major stress because I feel like we can't parent together as much as we'd like to.

 

I also dont think my marriage would survive if we had another kid.  I was extremely jealous that my husband was home during the week and had a very hard time adjusting.  He doesn't love staying at home, but it's just the way our work schedules are.  He really isn't wired to be home and it really stresses him out.  I feel so guilty about it, and would trade places in a minute with him if I could.  anyway, we've been toying with just sticking to one.  My mom def drops hints that I should have another, but I don't want to do that just because "it's expected" to have more than one.  We are finally in a groove where we are working well together and I think I'm content with having just one.  

 

Thanks for listening!

Arcadia1114

Hi! Welcome! I'm sure it can be stressful at times not having dh around on weekends. Mine travels a few times a year; just enough for me to have the utmost respect to people who parent solo on a regular basis. I am 100 certain my marriage would be in tro

kristennd

We've had a milder version of your scenario. DH has always been home with LO during the week, and until just a couple months ago, he worked two jobs Friday night to Sunday night (including graveyards) so he was in town but we didn't see him. Also a few