The topic that makes me age 1-2 years every time we discuss it.
How did you determine who will be your child/children's guardians?
Yes, I know... we are awful parents because we have not yet designated a guardian for Charles.
I have one sister and I really DO NOT want her to raise my child. She's passive-aggressive/bossy and I am 100% she would not honor our wishes that C be raised Catholic. In fact, she routinely says nasty, ignorant things about the church. That is a huge thing for my husband. Plus her kids are teenagers and she's already planning for her life after they're out of the house. I know she will go through the roof if she finds out she doesn't get her mitts on my kid. (She got mad when she wasn't picked as Godparent)
DH's siblings are all off the table too. Three brothers who are not parent material at all, and an older sister who is a nun and lives in a monastery.
We are leaning toward my best friend since childhood and her husband. They are already C's godparents. They live about an hour from C's grandma (my mom) They are devout Catholics. They struggled and struggled to have a family and finally adopted their son.. who is now pre-teen. I know they'd love to have another child to raise and would have now qualms about raising Charlie.
What do you think??????? Is it weird to not have family as guardians?
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Aaron is Charles age and we haven't designated guardians officially yet. Though we will have DH's sister be the guardian. She is married with 2 boys who adore him. And as a backup, most likely DH's brother.
Need to get on this.
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We designated guardians when we drew up our wills. I am an only child and DH has one sister. She is unmarried and for a whole host of reasons is not someone I would ever want raising my son. So, for us, it was pretty clear that
I'd go with the friends. When I was wee my guardians were Jewish. My parents are athiest but chose their best friends because they were married and good people.
When I was 12 my guardianship changed because my dad's little brother got married, s
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We haven't chosen a guardian for DS so you are not alone. I also don't think it is weird to have a non-family member as a guardian. When my brother and I were kids my Godparents were our named guardians. My Godfather was my Dad's good friend from colle
I'm not sure this counts as judging, but this is a really big deal. You need to get a will in order so that your wishes be known. If you guys die tomorrow, it almost certain that your wish to have your friend be his guardian will not be hon
NO judgment at all...we named DH's sister as guardian when DS was younger, but her life seems to be falling apart lately and I have been really second guessing our choice. It is a stressful conversation with DH every time I bring it up but I thin
The guardians you have in mind sound perfect. Some people may think it's weird if you don't have family as guardians, but not everyone has good options within their families.
We struggled for a while. We want DD raised Catholic, which elimin
DH's sister and her husband are in our will to be guardians.
Our back up is Dh's niece and her husband. This is also in our will.
I don't think it has to be family. No judgement from me!
So, let me thank you for posting this. It sparked a much needed conversation in my home.
I don't think it is weird not to have family as guardians. Right now, my BFF is the #1 choice for us. Both DH and I agree. We discussed hav
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