I followed some ladies advice with letting MIL throw a shower for her side instead of a huge 80+ person shower that SMIL and SIL wants to throw. I am still dreading getting that 30yr old walker/swing and crib that DH used as a baby though.
So she decides to tell me her plans so that I can "make room" in my house. I wasn't aware it was now being held at my house but that works so all the guests and I don't have to drive 2hrs one way. She wants to have all the women on her side come to my house and basically sit around and "shower" me advice. No gifts and a potluck. EEEKKK! A potluck?! So I'm going to sit around and hear how to take care of my child? I won't even have DH around as a buffer, or after I'm all stressed to listen so I can see this ending with me just feeling all kinds of upset and frustrated. DH is deployed so he won't even be around for any part of the pregnancy/birth/first months.
I'm not sure what to call this. MIL wants to just send out a mass Facebook invite. What would you call this? A really good friend is just naming it "The headache" but I do want to be grateful for the gesture.
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Ok, I would draw the line with that. I would have you or your husband call her up and say that won't work for you. Say you are busy or have plans on that day or whatever but I wouldn't do that at all.
If she really wants to giv
I'm sure it's because I'm dealing with IF, but I can't help but think, is no one on your MIL's list childless?
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Just tell her no.
Say you aren't comfortable with it or come up with another excuse like you are busy, don't have to room whatever.
No, really though. I would do everything I could to find a way to cancel that "shower." There is no way I could sit through that. I also don't think any of the guests will find it very entertaining either. I would
well it is just a terrible idea. I doubt you would get much of a turnout anyways.
Just thank her for her kind offer but it simply won't work. Maybe plan a day with just the two of you and have lunch, go see a movie, go shopping
I feel that you might just have to "grin and bear it" through this party. Not saying I would be happy about it, but this is what I would do (My MIL comes up with similar well-intended ideas). Just remember that it is only one afternoon, you don't
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Officially the worst idea for a baby shower ever. Dont do it!
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Your MIL is nuts! And you need to start drawing boundaries with her NOW. It's only going to get harder once there is a grandbaby in the picture. It's really unfortunate that your hubby
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I'm on the "decline" side of this. And I really FULLY agree- you NEED to start creating boundaries w/ this woman. Especially as your DH is deployed. YOU are going to need to start learning to say "no" to her or she will steam roll you in ma
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There is no way on earth I'd be comfortable sitting in a room with people I don't know dictating how I should raise my kid, that isn't a shower, that's a stress test gone haywire.
What do you call it when a bunch of people sit around and give you unasked for advice while you try your best to smile and nod?
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Find a way to get out of this. Frankly, if the MIL steamroll
I thought a shower was to "shower the mom with gifts". IMO, it sounds like a headache. Who are these people she's inviting? It's definitely not a shower.. it just sounds like a bunch of crazy old women telling another women what to do when shes a mothe
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I don't mean this to insult the OP, but I have never understood how people get stuck in these situations. You can certainly tell your MIL "no" in a polite and respectful manner.
My mother comes up with a zillion hair-brained ideas each day,