My update...

scorch

Hey guys, things have been really quiet here.  I went to see my therapist .  We talked a lot about his past, or at least everything that I know about it.  It was very eye opening. She said that what he is experiencing could be a body memory, some past abuse that happened when he was a child and it was bad enough that he couldn't process it at that time but something triggered it and he is dealing with it now.  The cells of his body are " remembering"  the trauma that it faced .but also that he might be experiencing Seasonal Affective Disorder along with it.   She told me I was doing all the right things to help him, by making him feel safe (by rubbing his back every night - it's something we have always done through our entire relationship).  She told me about the next steps that I need to take and made sure that I knew when I had to leave and how to leave ect, and made sure i had a sttong  support . She calmed a lot of my fears about what would happen if the cops knocked on my door. 

I know it's not really what you guys wanted to hear.  I am safe. My girls are safe.  He has a project he is working on and I changed my work hours so we haven't been spending a lot of time together.  I just haven't been engaging with him a whole lot about anything , not jut this. 

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scorch:

 

I know it's not really what you guys wanted to hear.  I am safe. My girls are safe.  He has a p

ThePolishHammer

Even if they are small steps, you are taking steps forward. That's what matters. Everyone is just worried about you...

Good luck!  

keags5496

Like PPs said, I'm glad that you're taking steps in the right direction. I'm still concerned for your safety, truthfully, but if you've received professional help then at least you're moving in the right direction.

LoveActually4

I'm so happy to hear you're doing better and everyone is safe.

NerdyMama2

Thanks for the update! Glad you're all safe.

klondikebar

I am glad that you are in therapy and have plans, but I still think your DH needs help. The situation hasn't really changed much since you are still concerned enough to need an exit plan. You say you are safe, but you don't  seem like you f

lrn327

Thank you for updating and T&Ps that you all continue to stay safe.  I prayer that he can get some help as well.