So my BIL and his wife said they'd have another kid when we finally had our first. Well I guess that's cool and all but all in all that's slightly weird to family plan around someone else's life.
So we were surprised with our pregnancy first off, and now they are 3 months behind us. This might be fun once the kids are older I'm just worried how this will all go with new babies.
I want to CD, EBF, and BLW... SIL, will likely start the kid on rice cereal at 4 months, use disposibles, and just do things conventionally.
I'm worried that if grandmas house has their babies crap food at it they will be tempted to share it with mine. They live right next to grandmas and we live an hour and a half away. So we won't be around as much. So all of her ways with be the "normal" ones and it's their second kid. So it's already been established.
I guess I'm just freaking out a little on how strange they will all think I am when a 3 month younger baby is eating food and I'm telling them no food just breast milk to my older baby.
Any positives to have close cousins??

Re: Worried about constant comparison...
Yikes, OP, I have to agree with PP that you are coming across as super judgey and that your attitude is going to lead to problems with your ILs. I would kill for my LO to have cousins close in age. Why don't you just wait and see how things
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I will admit I am a bit defense in my parenting choices. I'm definitely not trying to come across as judgy, and I honestly want any advice I can get to try and defuse this train of thought earlier than later. Maybe it's a lot of FTM in me being nervous
Beyond what the other posters have said, this issue of different parenting styles is going to come up WAY before that, with any set of friends with babies you have.
Everyone parents differently. And that's ok. Let them parent the way
You're going to have this issue no matter what. Dd is 5 years younger than her cousin and they compare them all the time. We have completely different parenting styles as well which makes it even more fun. (aka I'm doing it all wrong, or so they say)</
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I'll have to determine what my "line" is when baby comes.
If you come at it like you did here, you will create a monster. Maybe it's just where Im at, but BFing isnt weird. Cloth diapering is interesting, but an admirable thing. No one has been all, "why does that 6 mo old have a piece of chicken???" They tho
I think that you will find that people will be curious about your way of doing things regardless of whether there is another baby around for comparison. If the grandparents don't know much about cloth, BFing, BLW, etc, they will want to know if they ca
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How awesome for your baby that they will have a cousin so close in age!
My son was born one day before my nephew. My SIL and I are pretty different people and mothers but there hasn't ever been an issue. We are just ecstatic
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My MIL used to compare dd and her cousin. They are 6 weeks apart in age but my SIL have different parenting styles. When her daughter turned 2, they put her in a toddler bed right away and started potty training as well. I felt that when Lexie felt she
I have this situation in my life. My son is one of 3 baby boys born in 5 months. The other two are second children, and mine is an only child. There are some comparisons on how they are being raised, i.e. one of the younger ones was turned forward faci
You really cannot see any positives to
Although I want to add that I am frustrated with BIL/ SIL for a lot of reasons. And they don't specifically relate to my question but definitely help explain why I came off as judgey.
I really
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I can't speak for everyone here, but at least with my friends and myself, Puffs are more of a "fun food". Something to help them practice their pincher grasp and keep them from screaming their head off when they are waiti
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