Attachment Parenting

Non snarky reply

Sick of my parents asking if my 7 mo old is in her crib yet. I usually just say we're working on it.

In reality. I'm not working on it. I love having her right by me. H wants her in her own bed but isn't really willing to put in the work.

How would you reply?
"When the first baby laughed for the first time, the laugh broke into a thousand pieces and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies." Sir James Barrie in Peter Pan

DS: 11/1/2010    DD: 8/9/2012       #3: 4/2019

Re: Non snarky reply

  • Eh, either "we're working on it" or "we're happy how things are". Or the ever popular "why do you ask?" and then just tune out on whatever rant they go on.

    And then change the subject as fast as possible.

  •  "Is she in the crib yet?"

    "Nope, we'll let you know when she is," smile, change the subject. 

     


     

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  • Ignore it and change the subject!
    DS1 - Feb 2008

    DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)

  • imageEveryusernameistaken:

     "Is she in the crib yet?"

    "Nope, we'll let you know when she is," smile, change the subjec

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    I would say we are happy co-sleeping for now. 
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  • Co-sleeping works for us right now so we aren't trying to change it.

    I think if more people were honest about their sleeping arrangements and and acknowledged they worked vs. trying to excuse or hide it, co-sleeping/bed-sharing wouldn't carry the

  • I agree with PPs that by replying that you're working on it that leads them to ask how things are going and will likely keep asking. If you want the questions to stop you need to be honest and say we're happy with our sleeping arrangements.

    IMO



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  • imagencbelle:

    Co-sleeping works for us right now so we aren't trying to change it.

    I think if more people were honest about t

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  • My parents ask me that all of the time.  I usually just lie and say "Yup."  It's not a complete lie.  She does sleep in her crib for part of the night.

    We are in the same situation as you.  I love having her in our bed.&nbsp

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  • Thanks ladies for the kind responses. They have made it clear that "babies don't belong in bed with their parents. They should sleep in their own beds". This coming from a woman who hates to sleep alone! I want to respond 'you don't like to be alone, why
    "When the first baby laughed for the first time, the laugh broke into a thousand pieces and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies." Sir James Barrie in Peter Pan

    DS: 11/1/2010    DD: 8/9/2012       #3: 4/2019
  • imageMerried_2008:
    Thanks ladies for the kind responses. They have made it clear that "babies don't belong in bed with their parent
    DD1 4.14.10
    DD2 8.22.13
    MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
    Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18

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  • I've said that before lol
  • If they went on that rant to me I'd simply say and that is your opinion...and leave it there. 
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  • Be honest! We co-sleep and it works for us. End of story.

    If they press the issue, you could offer to print them some literature about the benefits of co-sleeping, maybe offer some book rec's, websites. Our Babies,Ourselves off the top of my hea

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  • imagelisa5201:
    Be honest! We cosleep and it works for us. End of story. If they press the issue, you could offer to print them some lite
    "When the first baby laughed for the first time, the laugh broke into a thousand pieces and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies." Sir James Barrie in Peter Pan

    DS: 11/1/2010    DD: 8/9/2012       #3: 4/2019
  • It depends on how your parents are. Mine thought it was completely ridiculous that we co-slept with out 1 year old, and that he couldn't fall asleep on his own, but it wasn't up for debate, so we didn't debate it. It is ok to have different opinions/ styl
  • Just be honest. My mom asks if LO sleeps in his crib and I say 'sometimes.' She asks if I ever just put him down and leave him to cry himself to sleep and I say 'no.' I don't need to explain myself.

  • First time posting on this board and this post put a big smile on my face! My grandma was here this weekend and C has been fighting his sleep lately and she kept saying, this is why you put them in the crib the first night you get home. Like we didn't try
  • I just ignore people and change the subject when they ask how/where she is sleeping if I know they will be negative. Frankly, it is none of their business. 
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  • Lurker here... I think for most people i'd say, "She's sleeping great, thanks for asking," and change the subject.  However, parents are going to keep asking and i would probably be more direct.  "You know we co-sleep.  We aren't planning t
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