chances of N having cousins down to 0.00001%

bluejetta

I'm just sad.  My brother has struggled over last year with rounds of tests etc to try and figure the cause of his infertility.  He had surely unpleasant surgery and is off on short-term disability (he's in construction) for 2wks and to no avail.  The couldn't fix anything and didn't find any genetic material.  Now he and SIL have to decide whether they have the resources financial and emotional to find a donor or try adoption.  My heart just aches for them.  And I hope it isn't selfish to sort of grieve that I may very well not be an aunt and N might not have any cousins.  This is seriously making me reconsider my one and done plan.

GVSU-04

I'm sorry that your brother and his wife are having such difficulty. I don't think what you're feeling is selfish either.  You definitely have a right to feel that way. 

mnewlee

That's gotta be really tough on them. I hope they can come to a decision that makes them happy regarding adoption/donation.

I don't think it's selfish at all to grieve not being an aunt.

shelley1002

That's got to be tough. I'd be sad too.

becasmeca

This post gives me a frog in my throat! I am so sorry for your family. Looks like you all will be doing some soul searching!

Big hugs!

jen4ny

I am sorry to hear this. That has got to be so hard. And I don't think it is selfish to grieve not being an aunt. 

Ms5586

I'm so sorry they are struggling.  I agree with PP, completely normal to grieve about not being an aunt. 

solsburyhill

I'm sorry : ( This would weigh heavy on me as well. I know I really want to be an aunt and all my hopes lie with just my one and only brother. My SIL will never have children so if it worked out that my brother couldn't, I would be very sad. I'm sorry