12 Weeks and Still Fearful

SDW

Hello All,

 I'm 12 weeks pregnant today, and still carrying that fear that something will happen to the baby. It's a horrid feeling. I've seen her in multiple u/s and the doctor say I'm well and she's moving along fine.My Ob/Gyn said that having done IVF/FET the concern for her well being will probably be more heightened than say, a couple who got pregnant naturally....Still, how do I relax?  

 

Oh yes...and I'm IRRITATED that no more how hard I try I can't get my darn ticker to populate. It's becoming a BIG DEAL to me damnit. 

Manada

From what I gather it's pretty common to feel anxiety in pregnancy after having been through the infertility world.  The world of IF treatments are the trauma of continuously trying to simultaneously be hopeful and prepare for the worst at the sam

SDW

Thank you for your supportive words. Just breeeeathing.....

healz413

I don't have any wisdom to add beyond what Manada said about the fear and anxiety.

 But I wanted to mention about the ticker-- a few weeks ago I read a post about problems people were having getting their signatures to update. Someone sugges

SDW

Heeey, that worked!

 

I feel better already, lol. Thanks you two.

 

2MamazInSeattle

Ok so I may not be the best person to respond to this because I am your nightmare BUT I am going to anyhow because this may be helpful...

I decided early in my pregnancy that I would not stress out. I would not bathe my baby in cortisol stress

JoySeattle

First off, I will say that I have a low-risk pregnancy, have had a great anatomy scan, have felt the baby move, and still have random thoughts about loss. Although, for me they are sporadic and I can acknowledge them and let them go. I think this is no

songbird31

I can definitely understand your fears, but like some others have said, I try to let that go because it doesn't do any good for me or the baby. I actually ordered a doppler last week just to have at home, ironically before 2Mamaz news. I did this becau

mollykelley

Hi SDW, welcome and congrats on getting through your first trimester!

This is a completely normal fear, but I hope you are able to put it out of your mind and enjoy a wonderful pregnancy! 

I also did IVF - I'm in waiting period after t

SDW

Thanks everyone!!

 I do have a home doppler (rented from Baby Beats or something), but we haven't been able to hear anything other than the blood rush and my placenta. That's okay, my little girl is just shy I guess! I had an appointment

clairmeij

Thank you so much for posting this! Its a fear that I spent all of the first tri and much of the second tri worrying about. Reading all of three responses really was great for me. You're all right, worrying can't prevent a problem arising, and its much mo

SDW

Agreed; 2mamaz u are exceptional.

2MamazInSeattle

SDW:

Agreed; 2mamaz u are exceptional.

Oh, you guys are sweet! I am no expert at this...I was only pr

2MamazInSeattle

Sparkles - you are too kind I think not worrying is *so* much easier said then done! I think sometimes it's really hard to shake and Joy had some great resources. But, if it is something you can will to be different, it can help.

I think this

mollykelley

Agreed: 2Mamaz you are amazing. I'm learning so much from your calm and wisdom. Acceptance is one of the hardest things, and you seem to be walking through it with grace and dignity. Bless you!