Advice Requested

starburst0928

Hello!  I've been lurking for a while, and want to get some advice on what to do next since it seems like all you ladies will understand the position I am in.  Feel free to tell me I am in the wrong place.  I know the struggles that I have been through so far TTC are just ant hills compared to the struggles facing many ladies on this site.  I don't want to come across as someone who does not recognize that.

I had my son on 9/28/2012.  We had a perfectly healthy pregnancy, but something happened right before he was born and he ended up being stillborn.  He was conceived after 2 months of trying and as far as we know, he was perfectly healthy.

My husband and I have been TTC #2 since I got my first postpartum period on 11/23.  We've gone through 4 fertile windows with no luck, and have had a lot of confusing moments with ovulation and timing.  Nothing seems to be working "right".  I'm so frustrated with my body and my lack of control over it.  

Some background on me - I'm 25 and I was pretty average weight before I got pregnant but gained 65 pounds during my pregnancy.  I turned to dieting and working out to shed weight and am now 12 pounds under my pre-pregnancy weight (I am borderline "underweight" for my BMI right now, which is starting to be a concern to me).  I am no longer trying to lose weight but the scale keeps going down, which is frustrating because I am blaming my inability to control my weight to our problems TTC.  Other than that, I should be "healthy".

I guess my question for you ladies is, at what point did you know it was time to see a doctor? What were the first steps you took?  General physical with a consultation?  Did all you ladies start with your OB and go from there if extra steps were needed?

Thanks in advance ladies! 

 

ETA: Title adjusted.  

DTNZ4Ever

It can take a healthy couple up to a year to get pregnant. A doctor won't see you unless it's been a year. If you are 35 or over that window is 6 months. Are you charting?

starburst0928

DTNZ4Ever:

It can take a healthy couple up to a year to get pregnant. A doctor won't see you unless it's been a year. If you a

Jen071407

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. Like the other post said the general rule of thumb is 1yr of trying. Your body could still be regulating from your previous pregnancy. I would suggest temping and opks to help figure out what is going on. I would

starburst0928

Jen071407:

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. Like the other post said the general rule of thumb is 1yr of trying. You

tryingyetagain

I am so very sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for anyone who has gone through what you went through. Just wanted to say that you shouldn't feel dumb asking those questions here, since you are wondering if now is the time to see an RE. We are pret

laurid75

I too am so incredibly sorry ro your loss, that is an extremely difficult thign to go through and I think it makes sense that you're a little more anxious to move on, get pg again and have a baby.  Don't feel dumb asking any questions here at all.&nb

hopeisnotdead

I fully agree with everyone else... Don't ever feel dumb - getting knowledge is not for dumb people!!! Yes I waited about 8 months then called my OB and when I finally got in it was about 10 months of trying on our own but I told him it was a year... He t

kofmkg

I'm very sorry for the loss of your son.  I can't imagine how difficult it's been for you. I agree with everyone else.  I think it's premmature to think there are issues when it hasn't been a full year yet, your weight has been up and do

starburst0928

Thanks everyone! You ladies gave some awesome advice! I really appreciate it!

JoJo42

I am very sorry for your loss, it must be very difficult for you to be having trouble so soon after such a devastating loss.  I think that it would be a great idea for you to go ahead and meet with your doctor anyway.  You could certainly ask fo