September 2013 Moms

Trust Issues

Between DH and I. We had one lying incident and definitely handled it wrong. It's been years and we still don't trust each other. We never go out alone. We hardly do any individual activities, especially with other people. And we are tired of it! Who has struggled with this? What did or would you do? We love each other and we are both so over this issue because we both know it's getting ridiculous!

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  • I couldn't imagine a marriage without trust! It must be hard for y'all. Me and hubby have disagreements like all other marriages but we always trust each other. Y'all just need to sit down and discuss whatever it is that is making y'all feel like y'all ca
  • Not sure what you mean. Was this an infidelity issue??
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  • What is the root of the trust issue? Affair, money....?

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  • imageMama31:
    Not sure what you mean. Was this an infidelity issue??


    No, but close enough. He lied to me
  • Maybe see a therapist
  • imageLealyn2585:
    This may not be what you want to hear and ignore it if it offends or upsets you. But my honest opinion is that you shou
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  • I would honestly talk to a therapist and/or marriage counselor before baby gets here. If this happened one time years ago and you're still holding onto it and can't trust him then it seems like maybe there is some other underlying issue.
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  • The best thing you can do for your baby, your DH, and yourself is to work on this with a therapist. If you can't trust each other to be alone, I'm not sure what you are doing together. Best of luck!
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  • Go see a marriage counselor. Like, yesterday.

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  • imagePrettyInPearls23:

    Go see a marriage counselor. Like, yesterday.

    This! You guys are in agreeme

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  • I am with everyone else. See a counselor to work out your issues so you can have a happy and healthy relationship. You really want to have a relationship that your child can look up to and work towards. 
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  • I don't know if any advice I have is valuable, but I know how you feel. We had a similar but sexual situation happen prior to our marriage that we still deal with today. I don't trust my DH to go out alone with certain people or unless I SEE him leave
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  • We have a 15 month old ;. It's not like our relationship is hanging by a thread or in some dire state.... It's just a problem we created and we want to be better. I mean really. Neither of us goes out with friends alone?! We both know that could use fixin
  • imageEMLYNNLERETTE:
    I don't know if any advice I have is valuable, but I know how you feel. We had a similar but sexual situation happ
  • I know what you mean. You are a bit younger than I am and younger than we were when our fiasco happened, but I doubt the impact makes any difference. It would be one thing if your DH is not a liar normally... Is he? I don't know... I have a track rec
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  • imageEMLYNNLERETTE:
    I know what you mean. You are a bit younger than I am and younger than we were when our fiasco happened, but I
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  • imagemrsgerman:
    To me it seems like your being unable to trust each other over something minor that happened so long ago is being caused
  • We have had trust issues in the past.  I definitely recommend marriage counseling to help you through this.  
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  • Three years is too long for you and hubs to be feeling this way. Definitely time for some marriage counseling. It will help so much!
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