How do you deal with these feelings?

MainelyFoolish

Dinner tonight with my resistant eater was especially challenging. She really wanted the Barbie toy from a Happy Meal. I told her that she had to eat one chicken nugget to get the toy. (She used to eat McDonald's nuggets but the last few months has stopped doing so.) Long story short, she ate half a nugget before she gagged herself and threw up all over the kitchen and bathroom.

While cleaning up the mess I couldn't help thinking "why can't she be normal?" I didn't say it aloud, thank goodness, but I'm pretty sure what I did say in the moment wasn't much better, as I was pretty mad at DD and the situation.

So, what do you do to keep your cool? What do you to avoid wishing for things to change when that isn't realistically going to happen?

smllnuggett

I'm sure we all have our moments. I do my best to take a deep breath before I react. That breath usually gives me the time I need to remember that it may not b ds doing it but the "disease". Although, even that doesn't always work. Just take 1 thing at a

ToastieSimons

We all have those times.  The "it would be so much easier if s/he were normal".  I try to remind myself that this is normal.  His normal.  This is who he is and I try to remind my self of the obstacles he has already overcome and the a

lite-bright

**hugs**

I've definitely found myself thinking that. Why can't you just BE NORMAL??

Not repeating so many things, not being slow on the uptake, not skipping right over the p

-T-

I struggle with the "why can't he be normal" thing all the time. I'm sorry you had a rough meal. 

My go-to trick is to get him to smile. As soon as he smiles, I can't help but feel a little bit lighter. I keep thinking, I'd rather have him a

malcivar

:-)  I just thought that about 30 seconds ago.  "Why can't I catch a break?"  Chris is currently going on 60+ minutes of me putting him back into bed.  Now he's stopped kicking the side of his bed and is just rattling off Super Why

Brewtowngrl

I called my mom and DH so excited tonight because DS tried a meatball and new type of noodle.    I am on a diet and he asked to try them so that is what was for dinner.  Screw the diet.  

His OT said he will get a prize after he

MainelyFoolish

Thank you all for the commiseration and the ideas. It helps to know that you're not the only person who has felt this way. And it is so true that often what drives me nuts about DD is her completely typical behavior and not her food issues!

zoeyandsummersmom

I try not to dwell on them too much. This is our normal. Not eating via mouth is our normal. It gets difficult when I see how much food is a part of our lives and DD has no interest in it.

Assembly_Reqd

When you figure it out, let me know. I feel this way every damn day and I am getting kinda sick of it.

AgrippaRidesAgain

I have a hard time with this, and DH makes it worse. This weekend, DD choked on a fench fry while we were out to lunch and it put DS into a state of hyperventilating, screaming hysteria. He does this any time anyone even coughs while eating.
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DixieNormous330

I have a really hard time with it and so does H. It's easier-ish when we're home and it's just the 3 of us, but when we're around other kids her age it's heartbreaking.

But I try to remind myself that's she's a happy, engaging, wonderful gir

Princess_Lily

Everyone is unique, from child to adult.

Find things she enjoys to eat, and let her eat.  Let her know she can't play with her toy until she takes a bite - maybe she doesn't like nuggets.  Have you tried a