Help! Postpartum question

PennyLane26

Lurking with a postpartum question. My best friend is getting married May 18th, I am due April 24th. I couldn't imagine missing her wedding.

That being said, am I really going to be up for a wedding 3 weeks postpartum? Never mind if baby is a week or two late. If I do go, I would imagine that I would just attend the ceremony and a bit of the reception (they are at the same venue, about 30 minutes from my home). We would probably leave after dinner. But we would have to leave baby at home with my mom. That means at least 6 hours away from baby (I'm anxious just thinking about it!).

I want to reply "Attending" and see what happens, but I'm also sensitive to the fact that she will have to pay for my (and DH's) dinners and I would feel terrible if our seats were paid for and we end up being a no-show. 

Ok experienced mommies: WWYD? TIA for any advice.

 

 

lovebug33

3 weeks pp I went to see Wicked. It was 3 hours long. I loved the show, but I couldn't handle being away from the baby that long. Maybe just go to the wedding?

Saraevh

How much you feel 'up to going' will totally depend which stinks because you won't know until after you have the baby!    

I had a really rough delivery with my first and was a wreck a

Dragonfly1226

I probably wouldn't go. Physically and emotionally, it would have been too much at that point. If I was to go I would go alone and leave LO at home with DH. No way I would have left DS with anyone else - even grandparents - at that age. But it is a pretty

oooCarrieB

No, I wouldn't go. I cried about leaving my baby at home to go grocery shopping like 2 weeks pp. I couldn't have left her for several hours at that point. Plus if you are nursing it would be very hard.

mnj05

I'm actually 3 weeks pp this week and I would go. I had a c-section and can get around well, but not everyone feels the same and as someone else said, each delivery is different so who knows on that front.

 I know I could handle being away

bearfootz

If it's your best friend then I would suggest at least trying to go.  You never know what you'll be up for at that time and I'm guessing your friend would rather you leave early and be out the money for dinner than to think that you didn't make th

Pnut30

Oh boy I don't know. I think I would have been ok physically (pain wise) but I had a lot of urinary incontinence so that might not have been fun at a wedding.  I think it might be harder emotionally.  I had surgery 3 weeks pp and had to leave

RoseHQ12

I would not "plan" on going to the wedding.  You are dealing with so many unknowns right now, you don't know exactly when your LO will get here, you don't know how your delivery will be & you don't know what type of delivery you will have. 

CallMeAl

I would go. Can you ask whoever takes cares of the baby to come to the venue and hang out at a nearby spot so that you could nurse (if you are BFing) between the ceremony and reception? I don't know if there's a park or a library or a mall they could push

PennyLane26

So much good advice! Thanks everyone!

I think I have a plan, based on your opinions. I think I'll call her to let her know I'll be responding as "Not Attending" but if all is well I will definitely go to the ceremony. That way I won't be afraid

Run20K

I took the baby to a wedding 4 hours away 4 weeks postpartum. It was fine and we only stayed for a couple of hours.

kellyrn9956

I am just a week out and am ready to get out of the house! I think it really does depend on how your delivery goes. I had a vaginal birth with no tear or episiotomy. Yesterday H and I took James to the ped urologist and stopped him by my office.  We

mdiblasi10

I went to a wedding 5 weeks post-partum (c-section). My Mom stayed with G at our house and thankfully the wedding was just 15 minutes from us. I did go breastfeed him in between the ceremony and reception, but we made it work and we had a good time. I

kaf7

Hey Penny, 

as you know I delivered 9d late and now have a 9d old and have the biggest exams of my life coming up when baby is 3 weeks old. I will be gone 6h each day and am fairly stressed about it. I am also still exhausted. I know I would

IBackBevo

Personally, by that time I would probably have been excited to get away for an evening. DH and I went on an overnight, out-of-town trip when DS was about 8 weeks and left him with the in-laws.  I did miss him, but it was also good to get away