How do you answer this?

thefarmchick

How do you answer "What's wrong with the 3 kids you have?" 

We have 3 beautiful children, I had a uterine rupture with the last and we are no longer able to have any more biological children. (I've posted this before)

We are in the decision making process of whether adoption is for us, can we afford it, what agency and what type.

After some helpful suggestions from ladies here we decided to look into international adoption, specifically Poland. But we haven't pulled the trigger and made a commitment yet.

I've mentioned adoption before to family, I've always wanted to adopt. My husband knew this before we got married and we decided to wait and see how it goes. He's not my problem.

It's the "What's wrong with the 3 kids you have?" people.

I got the same response when I mentioned I was devastated after the rupture that I couldn't have any more biological kids.

It's not about not loving the children I have, it's about loving even more children.

 

Dr.Loretta

The stock answer you can always use it to turn it back on them with a quizzical look and say, "Why do you ask?" It usually stops people in their tracks and makes them realize what a ridiculous question it is.

If you want to go the more educationa

MayDayGirl

What a ridiculous question! I am pregnant and never once has someone asked what is wrong with my other three! People are stupid.

I would look at them with a blank stare and say, "I can't even entertain that with an answer" and move on.

MayDayGirl

Spooko:

I'm fairly certain I'd end up blurting out, "Nothing! What's the matter with you?!" before walking away.

sgb721

I would be truthful and say that you and your husband have always discussed completing your family through adoption even with the blessing of biological children.

GWUAlum

DH and I are also looking into Poland. We're waiting 'til the fall to get started. I've done found an agency just waiting for Sept/Oct. Wish I could think of some smart witty reply for you , but I have nothing. Good luck!

thefarmchick

I'm glad it's not just me and it was from DH's family. I think it comes from the fact that I had 3 difficult deliveries and 3 very small children and they know it costs a lot of money.

I'm going to go with the fact that they don't want me to have

thefarmchick

I should add that DH's grandma was an orphan herself and always wanted to be adopted but was "too old"

mommytoconnor

I get a similar response when people hear I adopted my son from foster care. I get the oh how sad he wasn't wanted.  I say well that's not true I wanted him and alot of other familes wanted him.  Then they give me the oh you're so great to adopt

davidandheather

My goodness, people can be so stupid. I am so sorry you have been asked that. I think I would tell them that ' we love our kids so much and we have always wanted to build our family even more through adoption and are so excited to be in a place to do it n

smithpaint

We have 5 kids and are in the process of adopting a child right now.  After we had 3 - people always said "You're done right?"  Love it.  Sorry people are so rude. 

 After having 5 kids I now know that I could love any #