Trouble with my mother!

itsmejess23

Hi everyone!

I'm new here but I've been reading these boards for a long while now. Ever since baby fever set in anyway, haha.

Anyway, I'm really in need of some advice!

My spouse and I have been together for 4 years and married for almost two. I'm currently a student and he's working. We're both 26. We have wanted to have children pretty much from day one, but decided to wait until I'm closer to graduating from my Master's program. So I told my mom about our plans, looking for some support and instead I've gotten the opposite reaction. She thinks it's too soon, that I should work full-time for a few years, that we don't have enough money...etc.

While I understand and appreciate her concerns (I know they come from her experience of having my siblings and I before the age of 25 and the struggles that her and my dad went through), I feel like she is giving me little to no credit. She keeps talking like we have no idea what we're doing and that I'm basically going to ruin my life if I do this now.

I really want my mom's love and support and instead I'm getting backlash and doubt. How do I respond to this? I'm hoping that in the happy event that I do get pregnant that she'll come around, but how do I cope if she doesn't? 

I apologize for starting my time off here with a complaint, but I really don't know where else to turn. 

Courtimilk

Your mother has struggled to provide for you and just wants better for you and your children. You can't blame her. She just wants what's best.

Even if she isn't excited when you become pregnant, it will pass. She's not going to hold a grudge over

Jellybean813

First of all, Welcome! I'm actually in a similar situation. DH and I have been together 7 years, married for almost 3. I'm 29, he's 34. I'm also in a graduate program, and we were going to wait until I was done with school before we started TTC. But th

loveofspencer

Everyone struggles. Planned or not no one is ever COMPLETELY ready to have a baby. My fianc? and I thought we were ready around late june 2012 and it took us until october early november to conceive. Our situation changed DRASTICALLY since then and we fee

Mysterious_wife

Stop inviting people into your bedroom and relationship. It isn't anyone's business when you have a family. Keep it between you and your husband.

MrsRustyGriswold

Holy walls of text, Batman!

Oh, and MW is wise. Don't tell people until there is something to tell.

Kamiegrace1

Mysterious_wife:

Stop inviting people into your bedroom and relationship. It isn't anyone's business when you have a family. Keep i