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I feel bad . .

kademorrisonkademorrison
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We currently have a 13 month old boy who is VERY attached to me. I nursed him exclusively since day 1 and am a SAHM, so he has had me at his beck and call for as long as he could remember. 

WELL, we just found out I am 7 weeks preggers with baby #2!! As much as we are excited, I am feeling VERY guilty... like I am possibly robbing my baby boy from some of his "baby" time. Or that I just won't have as much time for him once baby comes and it will effect him or he will be sad and not understand why I am giving this new baby more attention.

It is really getting me down, and I find myself babying him more rather than getting him more independent in preparation!

Anyone else feel this way / been here?? Advice please :) 

Kade's Mama *All Natural/non-medicated birth with Doula & Midwife*
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  • megframe16megframe16 member
    My DS is 4 months old and I am just over 6 weeks along with baby 2!
    I haven't had as much time alone with DS but I have felt the same way.. That I'm taking away from him some how. I found comfort in the thought that I'm giving him a best friend : th
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  • ishka338ishka338
    Our little guy was 13 months when I found out I was pregnant too and although I didn't feel the guilt right away, as I got farther along in my pregnancy, it caught up with me and I'd cry while holding him.  Like PP, I tried to think I was giving him
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  • kagl08kagl08 member

    My DS was born when my DD was 13.5 months old. I had those same feelings. My DD was/is very attached to me. I am also a SAHM so I'm all she knew. She'd cry when I left the room, so having to leave her to go to the hospital was a horrible thought. I wil

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  • kademorrisonkademorrison

    Thanks for all your kind words (and real words) It is nice to know I am not the only CRAZY person :)

     

    All your pics are adorable, I can't wait for my son to have his little bro/sis here!

     

    Kade's Mama *All Natural/non-medicated birth with Doula & Midwife*
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  • breezelikewindbreezelikewind member
    I'm due in two weeks and DS1 is 14 months. I've had the EXACT same feelings of guilt throughout the pregnancy, so you are not alone. It's one of the reasons I'm attempting a VBAC...I really want a faster recovery so that I can give my big guy attention wi
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  • Arielle27Arielle27 member
    I felt like that when I was reaching the end of my 2nd pregnancy and truthfully, in the beginning after DD was born, and now I cannot imagine spin it any other way because the kids are so close and enjoy one another do much!! I actually feel bad for kids

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  • diana.filipidiana.filipi member
    These feelings are normal.  It's true you will have less time and individual attention to give him.  He will have to wait for you to be available once the baby arrives but you are also giving him something you can never be to him or for him, you
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  • kademorrisonkademorrison

    imagebreezelikewind:
    I'm due in two weeks and DS1 is 14 months. I've had the EXACT same feelings of guilt throughout the pregnancy,
    Kade's Mama *All Natural/non-medicated birth with Doula & Midwife*
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