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Married, but still a single mom.

Kamiegrace1Kamiegrace1 member
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It?s really nice to have the extra money but I?m tired of being a single mom - because DH is currently working 2 jobs. He took job #2 mainly to get the discount.

 

DH has the night off from job #2, but instead of going to pick up DS and spending a couple of hours with him before I get home, he is going fishing.

 

He hasn?t changed a diaper, put DS to bed, or fed him a meal in months ? even before he started at job #2. And he?s never gotten up in the middle of the night with him.

 

I would just tell DH to quit job #2, but I don?t think any of those things would change if he did.

 

I?ve come to realize that DH is a very loving, caring father, but a very hands-off one. He doesn?t want to deal with the bad side of parenting ? actually taking care of the kid. It almost makes me not want to have anymore ? because I know I would be the one to actually take care of him/her, while he just steals kisses and cuddles whenever he wants.

 

Thanks for letting me vent Smile

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Re: Married, but still a single mom.

  • Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    You need a come to Jesus meeting with him.
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  • robinsokjrobinsokj member
    Don't be a doormat. 
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  • MrsRustyGriswoldMrsRustyGriswold member
    Seriously, nip this in the bud now.  I know the feeling.  My DH work freelance and it's feast or famine, while my job is a steadier schedule.  I pick up the slack when he's busy and he reciprocates when it slows down.  That said, if bu
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  • MrsHennyBeeMrsHennyBee member

    Have you talked to him about being more involved with taking care of the kids?  I might be completely off base, but it seems like you have accepted the idea that your H is hands off when it comes to the kids.  If you want this to change, I wo

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  • Bonnesetter27Bonnesetter27 member
    I feel like I am a single mom these days too. My dh is a high school coach so besides the 1/2 hour commute to dc in the morning ds may not see him. Even on the weekends it is limited (today he left at 8:30 got home at 1 and left again at 4 until 9). Howev

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  • tealowltealowl member
    Personally, I would be thanking him for working 2 jobs so you don't have too, not bitching because he won't change a diaper or get up in the middle of the night. He's working 2 jobs, he's probably uh, tired?

    I've been a single mom, and I sur

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    imageteal owl:
    Personally, I would be thanking him for working 2 jobs so you don't have too, not bitching because he won't change
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