Do you have family coming from out of town for your shower?

TX-Bride

Where did they stay? Did they stay with you? Did you have a problem letting them know you could not host them at your house?

Here is my situation. I am going to sound really ungrateful and spoiled, and I hate to be that person. BIL has been bugging me since we announced we are expecting, when is the shower becuase his FI wants to come, like every other day would ask, what date it is, when they would get the invite, etc. I have MIL, BIL, his FI and his two puppies (the puppies always come uninvited, because they don't want to pay for boarding, but would pay more for their airline ticket!) are coming for the baby shower. I know they are going thru a lot of expense to come and be here for the baby shower (BIL and FI's ticket would be close to $1200), first of all I don't feel it's right for them to spend that much money to be here for two days, just for the shower, they are saving for down payment, second it's not the best time for us to entertain that many poeple in a house that we would be moving a few days before they arrive. They know our circumstances, I have politely mentioned a few times that I really don't feel right if they spend that much money to be here for just a weekend, I am afraid if I say more, it would come across as I don't want them here. But they are super excited to be here for the shower and his FI told me yesterday they don't care how much it costs, they don't want to miss the shower.  I know I am being ungrateful/selfish, and maybe if it was my own family, I would have felt more comfortable with a messy/unpacked house, but something about the inlaws makes me want the house to look nice and comfortable enough for their stay.  It is also the first time MIL would be meeting the BIL's FI, so I guess I want both of them have good time here and have nice memories. And as much expense they are going thru to be here, I can't even bring myself to ask them to stay at a hotel.

I guess this post is more me venting than anything else.

CRLSMC2011

That sucks.  The only people that came from out of town from my family were my MIL and DH's best friend.  MIL/FIL stayed at BIL/SIL's house.  The best friend stayed with us. (Both had a 2-3 hour drive) She is in a VERY bad

EastCoastBride

No one came from OOT.  largely because I think I only invited 2 people that were OOT! 

And I'll say- it's insane that they are spending that kind of $$ for a SHOWER.  Save it for after the baby is actually here! 

Anyhow

ehnasto

I am sorry for your situation and that I can't help. All of my OOT guests came drove down for the afternoon and left a little early to get back home for the evening.

From you post it might also be BIL's excuse to introduce FI to his mom in a n

lily_721

I hate when people assume they are going to stay at someone's house.  That is an INSANE amount of money to travel for a baby shower.  Clearly if they feel that is an acceptable amount to spend, they can stay at a hotel with the dogs. 

kennazebrowsky

Well I can see where you do not want them to spend a ton of money to come visit- but maybe they want to make a trip out of it to see other people as well.

 

If they insist on coming you could call around a few decently priced hotels th

Monkeybutt80

The only OOT guests i invited are my MIL and my husband's brother's wife.  And they are both coming!  my FIL, DH and his bro will go golfing during my shower.  We didnt specifically talk about it but I am assuming that they are all staying

FemShep

Congrats on your baby, OP!  First, you need to let go of the cost of the ticket and how much BIL and his FI are spending.  It's not up to you to tell them how to spend their money or judge if things are too expensive for them to do.

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TX-Bride

You are right that is not my place to tell them how to spend their money. I did mention talking to them yesterday that they could come when the baby is here while I am on maternity leave so I get to spend time with them, the answer was they have to com

msyoon

I have 5 friends/family members flying in for my shower and I live in a small apartment. I ended up offering to just pay for their hotel because I'm sure they would be comfortable staying in an hotel than squishing in an apartment. They declined my offer

girlmama83

I don't see how you not wanting them to spend a ton if money, is being selfish. I think it's actually very nice of you? Ungrateful and selfish people would expect others to spend that kind of money just for their shower.

Disneygeek77

No you do not just have to suck it up.  If you don't want them in your home, then you certainly have that right.  Talk to your husband and let him know that you guys simply will not be able to accomodate them at this time.  My husband an