We have a vacation planned to go to Disney in April, so now we are about a month away. I don't want to tell her until right before. I do want to record it because she will have a great reaction.
DH wants to tell her now to use it for leverage. I hate that, because he will say, if you want to go to WDW, you better....
We could do a count down chain, so she can see how many days are left.
what do you recommend?
Re: When to tell her?
I would tell her a day before, maybe 2
ETA - how would you do it as leverage anyway - its not like you're really not going to go. . .. that just seems kinda mean anyway.
Ditto. I can't see using something that big as leverage for anything, especially because it's something for the whole family, not just her.
And I really wouldn't want to hear a month of "Are we going yet?! Is it time yet?!"
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I would tell her about 1-2 weeks before. DS take a long time to process things and I think if I told him two weeks in advance, by the time it rolled around he'd have a better understanding of what we were doing.
Also, my H always does stuff like that. I get so sick of hearing the bribes. I totally do it on occasion, but he really REALLY wears it out.
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I would never use the trip as leverage unless you truly are ready to follow through and not take her.
Having said that though, I am one to tell my kids in advance and let them share in the excitment. We went to Disney in Oct and told the kids a few months about 6 months in advance as I wanted in their input in some of the planning of what we were doing. We also wanted to make sure we had them watch a bunch of the Disney movies so they knew more than just the princesses. We took them shopping for princess dresses for BBB at a Disney store before we went and bought pirate stuff for pirate night on the cruise (we did a land/sea trip).
We did save some surprises and bought them some t-shirts and new PJs and a doll that we gave them while on the trip and didn't tell them everything but sharing the excitment as it was building was great.
I do have friends that told at the airport or a few days before and it was fine, just not my thing. We did the whole countdown thing on the calendar and it was a great reference point for us in figuring out when different things were happening which I do a lot.