Alright, so here is my situation.
All of my friends/family WANT/EXPECT me to have a shower. However, I'm not sure there is anyone to throw it but myself. My In Laws are out of the question. They offered to host my wedding, which resulted in my DHs grandma deciding I was the devil and turning his family against him and I that day. She has had long standing issues with what they all believe to be bipolar, and the family has since come around to be happy I am in the family. (All except grandma of course, DH wont even speak to her after that blow up) Even though the family has come around DH and I do not feel comfortable with any of them throwing another event.
My family is spread out all over the place. Having them host it would be impossible with the distance.
Our friends are all in tight money situations, and in no position to host a shower.
However, every single one of these family/friends can not stop talking about and asking when we are going to do a shower. I personally don't love being the center of attention. I tried very hard to find ways around physically walking down the asile myself at our wedding with no success, just don't like attention. However, I know how much my family and friends would all love for us to have one. We already are not finding out the sex, and keeping name choices to ourself, so I feel like a shower would be at least one way to make everyone feel a little involved.
Also I have no desire for gifts. At all. The DH and I have just about bought everything we will need, including cloth diapers to last forever and wipes to last forever. However, every one is unresonably determined to buy us/this baby something. Which I am grateful for, don't get me wrong. However, since I am most likely going to be the one throwing the shower, how do I make it not tacky? I don't even need any gifts, but would like to have the event since they all want it so bad.
I know I just wrote a novel. I apologize. Thanks, if you read it all. Any advice?