s/o rewards charts

stever

When's a good time to start one for "chores?" DH doesn't think we should start one until we've conquered PT'ing, but I'm sick of begging DS to tidy his toys or having him think a fairy comes by to do it for him while he's at school.

Thoughts?

superaunt

i saw this awesome thing on pinterest the other day... https://pinterest.com/pin/36662184438877737/

i totally wanna do this. and NOW. 

stever

superaunt:

i saw this awesome thing on pinterest the other day... https://pinterest.com/pin/36662184438877737/

i totally wanna do this. and NOW. 

That is awesome! We already have a deal where we lock up his toy box - or stash his stuff out of his reach - as a form of punishment and he gets stuff back as a reward, usually potty related. But I like adding the whole 'pick your stuff up or it goes away' wrinkle to it. That way it's part of a system he already understands.

Off to make a sign for above the toybox.

Scramblersmom

stever:

superaunt:

i saw this awesome thing on pinterest the other day... https://pinterest.com/pin/36662184438877737/

i totally wanna do this. and NOW. 

That is awesome! We already have a deal where we lock up his toy box - or stash his stuff out of his reach - as a form of punishment and he gets stuff back as a reward, usually potty related. But I like adding the whole 'pick your stuff up or it goes away' wrinkle to it. That way it's part of a system he already understands.

Off to make a sign for above the toybox.

That sounds like something that would work. I don't know how many toys your DS has but I have also heard of a "toy library" where the kids can only check out one or two toys and they can't get another one until they put one back. I have heard that this works great and that at some point they get the message and you don't have to do that anymore.

I also think a chores list would work good and IMO he isn't too young. We make DS help pick up his toys and empty the dishwasher already. LOL! My poor kid! We also make the nieces and nephews do things since they were pretty young.

BrideBuddies

Stever... I think we'll do something like that for toys once he's PTed... which at this rate will be when he's 15.  So far, it's not a big motivator for PT, so I'm not sure it's worth the effort right now for other stuff. 

But if it works for your boy, I say "Go for it!."  C does sort of "help" pick up toys a little bit before he goes to bed.  Sometimes he's helpful.. most times he just wants to re-dump the blocks, etc.  Hit or miss right now.

 

 

robynlesley

I didn't do rewards for cleaning up--but I have taken toys away for short periods of time (1-2 days) for when he has NOT cleaned up. It seems to be working so far.

itsmevkb

I also don't really do rewards for chores because that is just something we all do as part of our family.  Have you ever asked your son who cleans up things at school?  I can guarantee it's not just his teacher and also guarantee that his teacher doesn't have ot beg him to tidy up.  When my kids begin to complain about having to clean up I ask how they respond when their teacher tells them the same thing and then gently remind them that they should treat their mother perhaps even better than they treat their teacher.