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February 2012 Moms
MIL Monday?
Did I miss it? If not I'm going to start!
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My MIL came over for a few hours to finally see our kids but she wanted us to drive to her house instead of her coming here. That was an improvement over her wanting to meet us in the parking lot of a movie theater, but still. Her house is really small and she has soooo much breakable stuff and it is all within DS's reach. Our oldest is fine and knows better, but the baby is still learning so we knew it wouldn't be a good idea. Plus, why not be at their house so she can see their rooms and toys and play with them?
Anyway, it was an okay visit considering it is the first time in 6 + months she's seen us/them and she spent the entire time comparing what we do to what DS's sister is doing. As in "___ doesn't let her kids walk around in socks - they are either bare foot or in shoes so they don't slip". Or "___ didn't break her kids of the bottle yet, her pediatrician didn't say it was necessary" and on and on.
DS #2 weaned himself off the bottle so it wasn't something I had to do - he did it himself at daycare as I nurse him when we are together. And he takes off his shoes sometimes and leaves his socks on and they have grippers so he won't slip.
Oh, and weird thing MIL did - she seriously flipped the roll of toilet paper in my spare bathroom. I have it where the paper rolls down from the top - not where it hangs down from the bottom. And I am the only one in my house that puts the toilet paper rolls on new - so I know she did it. H laughed because that is so her but I thought it was pretty weird. Who does that?
The last 5 weeks, she has texted me the night before she is supposed to watch him saying someone in their house is sick. We end up scrambling to make other arrangements and more times than not, it is too late to find someone who can take our boy at 6:30 the next morning.
Two nights ago, she assured me that she was good to watch him today. Then, last night at 9:30, she texted me to say she needed to make a doctors appointment today and couldn't watch him because she has had diarrhea off and on for six months. Six months? And she just now decided she should get checked out? On the one day a week she's committed to watching our son for a few hours? I ended up having to call into work for the fourth Monday in the last six. I have a feeling I'm going to get talked to tomorrow.
I'm going to keep this brief, because I could rage forever about these two little things.
1) she told DH he wasn't allowed to feed DS something on Friday. She said that DS hadn't eaten enough of his dinner and wasn't allowed to have anything else until he ate more. I went over and gave him what she was saying he couldn't have (a bite of brownie), and contolled my tongue.
2) DS fell while visiting there, and she got to him before I did. He was screaming, and she wouldn't give him to me.
We left shortly after offense #2, because otherwise, I surely would have snapped.
My MIL did that too awhile back
. It didn't help that Leo was saying "mama, mama, mama..." as she walked away with him. My husband got an earful.
My MIL's latest thing is to scream along with Leo when he's practicing it. I hate when he screams, but I know it's not worth the effort to shhh him all day, so I just ignore it and hope that it's just a phase. I don't encourage it though! She spent all morning screaming with him and then when we went out to a restaurant for lunch he started screaming bloody murder and she freaked out... "why is he screaming?? what's wrong??".
Um, he doesn't understand that it's only appropriate to scream at certain times. Particularly if someone is there encouraging him
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My MIL lives on the other side of the country. We dont see her too often, but when she comes to visit, she's like a hurricane. So much so that I refer to her as "Hurricane (insert MIL name here). Shows up with a couple of days notice, stays for a couple of days, then leaves a wake of destruction in her path. LOL.
She's in town right now and staying with us. I realized yesterday that it's a lot easier to dislike her from afar...in person, I really like her. It only took me 16 years to get to this point.
We had DD's birthday party Saturday. MIL insisted on making the cake. She talked about it all. year. long. She also kept asking exactly what type of cake I wanted and made it a point to tell me that she would make any type of cake that I wanted.
I found this great cake on pinterest. It was simple, and cute and perfect. BrownMa had the same cake for her DS. It was the one thing I really wanted for the party and I would have totally made it myself, had she not insisted. repeatedly.
Well she showed up on Saturday with a completely different version of the cake. Not at all as cute as the original and 5 times as hard to make. I made a great show of it but I was a little disappointed.
Then we called that night to again say thank you for helping and being a part of the day. She complained to DH that she didn't get to hold DD at all because FIL (her ex,) DH's half sister and FIL's mom held DD the whole time.
1. They didn't hold her the whole time. 2. This is the kind of comments that stress me out and make me hate the fact that ILs are divorced. I try so hard to please them all when they are over and I hate being put in the middle.
She is very nice, but she drives me crazy!