TMI--Advice Needed

Kibbles09

All right ladies. I need some advice, and I thought I'd start here. Currently, it has been 3 months since SO and I have been intimate. I have absolutely no desire whatsoever for any sort of affection (unless its from DD). At first I thought it might be my BC (Nuvaring) but now I'm starting to wonder if it's also from our relationship. I'm going to talk to my OBGYN next week at my annual. I hate feeling like this, but I don't want to deprive him either. And I don't want to give in just because he wants it.

Any thoughts?

FWIW, We used to be like rabbits, then it dwindled down to like 3X/week, then once a week, then after my cycle, and now... not at all. Maybe it's me? A combination of both?

lisamoe

It really could be anything!  Hormonal, depression, relationship, stress, fatigue, you name it.

If its becoming a problem and bothersome, you are definitely taking things in the right direction by mentioning it to your doctor.

Good Luck, hope you get the answers you are searching for

clineak

lisamoe:

It really could be anything!  Hormonal, depression, relationship, stress, fatigue, you name it.

If its becoming a problem and bothersome, you are definitely taking things in the right direction by mentioning it to your doctor.

Good Luck, hope you get the answers you are searching for

All this. Your doctor can definitely point you in the right direction, be it a change in BC, seeing a physical therapist, seeing a counselor, etc.

IlliniQT

Nuva ring KILLED my sex drive -- literally murdered it.  I didn't realize how bad it was until I went off it and started to feel normal again.  I'd change BC to something with different levels of hormones throughout the cycle. 

 I went with an IUD which also solved the problem since the hormones act locally.  Don't give up hope!

Lauren79

I haven't been on BCP's for 10 years.  After my D&C late January, my RE put me on them for 2.5 weeks.  Wow, I had no sex drive at all which is not normal for me.  I went off of them last week and what a difference. My sex drive came back within a few days. I would start with talking to your doc about changing your BC. I also felt a little depressed while on the pills which is not like me.

I hope things get better soon!

Kimmy9j

I have found the longer I go without it the less interest I have, but if I let DH get things going for me I get right into.  With all the life has going on now its harder to be in the mood or even be spontaneous about it

Kibbles09

Thanks ladies. I'll let you know what happens.

alandals

When I was on NuvaRing before baby I wanted NOTHING to do with sex. I used NR for 4 months or so and was moody and depressed and irritable all the time. The 3 months I was not using NR when we were TTC I felt great. So, for me, I blame the ring. It could be the same for you.

Don't beat yourself up, mama. There's nothing wrong with you  

ghostof5letters

I adore my husband and our relationship, but I have no desire either. The sound of kissing on tv makes me want to dry heave. 

katiewhompus

I'm right thre with you but have no bc to blame. By the time Dd is asleep I'm done for the day and have no desire for sex. We're also having condom issues, so I'm hoping getting on BC once Dd weans will help a little