How many hostess gifts do I need?

Bizzy80

Hi ladies.  I have never posted on this board before but lurk here often.  I am hoping you can help me figure out how many hostess gifts I need for my upcoming shower.  Two of my best friends approached me about throwing me a baby shower a few months ago.  They are splitting the cost of the venue and have done all the organizing so far.  I also have another good friend who is helping them and is doing the cake, shower games, and some of the decorations.  I know for sure I want to get the 3 of them a nice gift because they are doing majority of the work but I am wondering if I should get something for 2 other friends who are doing some smaller stuff to help out.  One is bringing drinks and the other is bringing a dish or 2 to pass.  Should I get them a gift as well?  I don't want them to feel left out if I give the other 3 their gifts at the shower in front of them.  WWYD?

Bizzy80

MandJS:

Whoever is actually hostessing should get a gift. Usually, that is evident from the invite. But if you're not sure, you can probably ask one of the 2 BFFs who initially approached you.

You can also avoid potential embarrassment or hurt feelings by giving the hostess gifts privately either before or after the shower. It need not be done DURING the shower...

Thanks. The invite just said given by friends and family (my mom is helping out too).  I planned on giving them the gift at the end of the shower after people started leaving but then thought that the other 2 girls will likely stick around to help with clean up and would probably also be there to help set up too.  I live about an hour away from each of them so want to give them their gifts at the shower. 

1026pumpkin

Did you already purchase their gifts?  If not, could you mail something small (like a gift card or other small item) with their thank yous or send a small plant?  I think it can get overboard and there might be other people pitching in that you don't know about.  I would make a point of thanking people for their efforts and their gift in the thank you cards.  I think the people with more involvement could maybe get a small gift.

Bizzy80

1026pumpkin:

Did you already purchase their gifts?  If not, could you mail something small (like a gift card or other small item) with their thank yous or send a small plant?  I think it can get overboard and there might be other people pitching in that you don't know about.  I would make a point of thanking people for their efforts and their gift in the thank you cards.  I think the people with more involvement could maybe get a small gift.

No I haven't purchased them yet.  Sending a gift card with a nice thank you might be a better idea.  Like you said, there may be other people pitching in and doing stuff that I don't know about and I don't want feelings to get hurt.