I have only been home from the hospital 5 days with baby #2 and #1 who is 21m old is still happy and loves her new baby sister.
Hoping this will continue.....
I'm sure it's different for everyone, but DD2 is 4 weeks old now and DD1 (22 months) just started to get jealous this past week. It's like she finally realized that when DD2 cries it means less attention for her. It doesn't help that DD2 is growing increasingly fussy.
ETA: After the reading the other posts, I should add that it's also true for us that DD1 doesn't "blame" DD2. She just throws a fit when we can't pick her up when we're carrying DD2 around to soothe her and gets upset if she feels like we're paying too much attention to DD2, but she's upset with us, not DD2.
Honestly, for me it didn't get hard until my DS (younger child) got mobile. My DD wasn't overly excited about her younger brother (no clapping or squealing or wanting to be with him every moment like some toddlers) but she wasn't jealous of upset either. Essentially, he didn't exist to her until he started approaching her toys and trying to get into her stuff.
Then we went through the period that I call the "dark ages" because my kids fought like cats and dogs for about 6 months. I couldn't leave them alone because they were always crying and fighting (as much as a 6-12 month old and a 2 year old can "fight"). Let's just say my DD didn't appreciate him then.
Now at 3.5 and 2 they are very close and love each other and play very well. Things are MUCH easier. So.. I do hope your honeymoon lasts forever, but if it doesn't, it is okay. I have a feeling that siblings have relationships that are like seasons. They change. All the time. Nomatter what .
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i've had 2u2 for 26 months and there still hasn't been a period where ds got jealous/didn't interact positively with his sister. of course at three and two they have their tiffs but the majority of the time they play nicely together.
Arielle27:Mine are 16 months apart. At first DS didn't really know what to make of her. 45 months on, he was suddenly jumping back and forth between loving and hating her but mostly loving her, with short bouts of jealousy. A few months later once they could interact more, they were good friends. Now they are rest friends and MDS makes sure that DD is always included in everything and that if he gets anything, he asks on her behalf as well to make sure she gets as well, which is very sweet!! One of the major reasons we're having all of ours so close together we're expecting number three in sept is precisely to avoid the jealousy we hear about with kids farther apart in age...
that's funny you've heard that. from what i've heard/seen is that kids closer in age usually experience more jealousy since they tend to compete more. kids further apart in age have different interests/are at different levels and therefore less opportunity to compete. a nine year old playing little league is unlikely to be jealous/compete with their 4 year old sibling in t-ball, kwim
i really think sibling relationships are mostly due to temperament with some parenting thrown in there. my kids rarely fight and i think it's due to their personalities meshing well together. i've met plenty of kids closely spaced who were constantly battling and plenty of kids further apart who get along well/aren't jealous at all.