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Just looking for some advice :)

Rg3Rg3
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I have recently started the process of trying to have a baby on my own.. I am going to be 33 in April and have PCOS. I am not willing to wait! I want to be a mom so badly and do not want to take the chance of meeting someone to late in life. I have seen my RE and she did the genetic work up and everything came out great.. I stopped my anxiety medication and started thyroid med's as my THS was slightly elevated.. ...I have no reached the exciting part of choosing my donor.... I was expecting it to be expensive just NOT as expensive as it is :( I spoke with a friend a mine and asked if he possibly know's anyone who would be willing to donate for me, this way i can save some money... I would obviously go to a lawyer and have papers drawn up that he would NOT be involved in any way and i in return would not ask for child support or anything like that.. Any opinions? Has anyone done this before? I feel like I was going full speed ahead and now---BAM..Im stuck...All this before i even started my first IUI.... It's scary.. and on top of everything else im doing this alone..

 

I am feeling scared and overwhelmed. 

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Re: Just looking for some advice :)

  • GTown08GTown08 member

    I know that there are lawyers who specialize in this kind of reproductive rights law - just don't know any personally.  I would say, try a google search, and then go talk to one.  They probably would know what steps to take better than we would.  Sorry I couldn't be more help to you - wish I had a name to give you. GL in your journey. 

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  • bugandbibsbugandbibs member
    I would look into your state laws. Some laws don't recognize severing paternal rights or eliminating financial liability in untraditional donors even if you have the papers drawn up with a lawyer.
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  • Rg3Rg3
    Thanks ladies! I appreciate your advice! :0)
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  • DebateThisDebateThis member

    <---- Try the Third-Party Reproduction board over in the list on the left side.

    Good luck to you!

    Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
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  • CourtimilkCourtimilk member

    imagebugandbibs:
    I would look into your state laws. Some laws don't recognize severing paternal rights or eliminating financial liability in untraditional donors even if you have the papers drawn up with a lawyer.

    This. There was a lesbian couple on the LGBT board that used a known donor and had all their paperwork done up through the lawyers only to have the sperm donor decide that he wanted custody of the child 6 years later. The courts granted custody provided that he back pay 6 years of unpaid child support. If I recall correctly he backed out as he did not want to pay the child support and consequently does not have custody.

    But the Third-Party Board would definately be of better assistance and knowledge.

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