Working Mamas is this happening to you?

Mar5195

So I mentioned the kid could care less when I pick him up from Grandma's.  He actually cries when I take him away from her.  But once we get in the car he's happy and munches on his key chain (he has his own key chain now). 

But when we get home I CANNOT put him down.   I've been trying to make dinner every night and he loses his sh!t if I put him down.  So I have to hold him and prep.  The other night he compromised and was he sitting on the counter while I chopped.  But I got so much anxiety thinking about how he coudl fall or I could cut myself or him that I put him on the floor with some toys.   And he lost it.  The cry was similar to when he fell off the bed.   Bloody Murder.

naturegal79

Yes, Reece is doing the exact same thing. It's seperation anxiety and it's normal. Reece's new thing is to cling to my leg for dear life. If I wiggle him free so I can move across the room he FAAAAAREEEEAKS!!! Cooking has been a hassle because of this, I have to give him a snack in his highchair now while I prep dinner.

aglenn

Yes, it's totally the age, plus teething in DS's case, and he is super tired at the end of the day.  One thing that's been helping lately is the learning tower thing (we got the one linked below when they had a 50% off sale) that we had from DD.  He will stand in there at the counter and bang away with a wooden spoon and be happy for a while.  DH put some cardboard in the open sides so he can't step out of it.

 https://www.onestepahead.com/product/Kids-Kitchen-Helper-Safety-Tower-Step-Stool/_/R-536981?cmSource=Search

Bella61811

Most of the time Audra will be content for a little bit while I prepare dinner but then it's like something clicks in her head that she wants me and she gets very unhappy. She won't even play at my feet while cooking. I just put her in her highchair with some blueberries and her milk and that's good enough for her.

SY Smiles

We do the high chair thing too but I give him spoons and bowls so he can pretend to help me cook. If I didn't, I would not get anything done. He freaks.

I'mGonnaMarryYou

Yes!! Even DH can't hold her its sad bc he misses her too as we both work fulltime. She only wants mommy! Very hard to do anything with having to carry her around everywhere.

ssimon621

Skyler has begun to cry when she leave out with DH in the morning to go to daycare.  When she gets there she jumps out of his arms for her DCP.  In the evenings she is back and forth with the clinginess.  But I never even attempt to cook dinner when she is awake.  She usually eats leftovers from the day before and I cook a new meal for DH and I once she goes down at 7:30.  On the off chance that DH is home before she goes down he will do bedtime routine while I cook or he will start dinner while I do it.  On weekends he keeps her entertained while I cook.

Mar5195

I love that helper's tower!  But the price I don't love.  Maybe I'll bite the bullet.  

I do love that he's clingy and wants Mama.  But I'm all alone most evenings and I have to let the dog out (we live in a townhome) and get dinner done.  I started making more stuff in the crockpot so we can spend more time together. 

But when we get on the couch for a snuggle he wants down then we up and then down it's a viscious cycle!

k3montel

OMG, YES!!!! It's driving me crazy!!  I can't do anything without hearing him scream bloody murder.  And, DH gets upset b/c PJ isn't consoled by him anymore.   I might just have to start putting him on my back in the Ergo so I can get stuff done.  We have a hiking backpack that I used to put him in, but he pulls my hair in that.

nebraska84

I have noticed this recently too, he does not cry the whole time but his attention span is very short and he just wants to be held. I think he is tried and worn out from the sitters and just needs some mommy time. I am consistently changes the toy I am giving him. I have even let him completely empty my hot pad/dish towel draw because he kept him entertained for a few minutes and I could get something done. It is evens like this that I wish I could stay home!

firewife9278

naturegal79:

Yes, Reece is doing the exact same thing. It's seperation anxiety and it's normal. Reece's new thing is to cling to my leg for dear life. If I wiggle him free so I can move across the room he FAAAAAREEEEAKS!!! Cooking has been a hassle because of this, I have to give him a snack in his highchair now while I prep dinner.

Not only do I have to give Hadley a snack in her high chair, I also have to pull her next to the counter where I'm prepping ... she also throws parts of her snack on the floor and then whines until I pick them up.

Unknown

Highchair and some munchies works for a bit.  I can tell it will be harder as he gets older..  yikes!!

lancyjo

Aria is a total Mommy's girl. She only cries occasionally if I take her from hubs. Anyone else, and she's jumping out of their arma to get to me. (I love it, btw)

After I get home from work, she does the same thing your ds does... She doesn't want sat down even for a second. Lately, if hubs isn't around to help, I put her in her high chair with some snacks to keep her busy. It'll get me 20ish minutes. That's no time for a gourmet meal or spa bath, but it's enough to make a quick dinner or take a shower. 

sapphirebride06

Mine is the same way - he loves daycare and likes to play but the second I get him home he is super clingy.  I think part of it is he is tired so that doesn't help.  I try to give him a favorite snack or treat in the highchair so I can safely get dinner prep done without holding him and it usually buys me at least 10 minutes.  Same with letting him push the laundry basket upsidedown - he loves it so it keeps him occupied while I have to get stuff done.  I hate trying to occupy him but the reality is simply that I cannot spend all night just snuggling him.  

2chatter

I don't know what I would do without my 8 year old. She will stand in the kitchen and talk to me about her day with DS on her hip - an arrangement they both love. Some days he is fine to play. Others he is in a panic to nurse - and he wants to nap on my lap after. My solution has been to cook a double meal on Sunday (leftovers on Tuesday). Prep a meal for Monday (crock pot, put in pan and prepare for oven...leftovers on Wednesday). Thursday is fish because it cooks quickly, and as I start work early, I take a quick break to prep that at lunchtime. It has halved my time in the kitchen.

CotterpinDoozer

DD has been really clingy lately... and sleep regression, holy cow!

mamatobe2012

ssimon621:

Skyler has begun to cry when she leave out with DH in the morning to go to daycare.  When she gets there she jumps out of his arms for her DCP.  In the evenings she is back and forth with the clinginess.  But I never even attempt to cook dinner when she is awake.  She usually eats leftovers from the day before and I cook a new meal for DH and I once she goes down at 7:30.  On the off chance that DH is home before she goes down he will do bedtime routine while I cook or he will start dinner while I do it.  On weekends he keeps her entertained while I cook.

THIS!  I feed our dogs and cats while DS is distracted with the tupperware cabinet.  Then I stand him up in front of our bedroom windows while I put sweats on.  Then I carry him while I warm up leftovers from last night for him or make a quick scramble.  Feed him dinner.  

After dinner with either take him on a walk with one of our dogs or play in the living room.  Usually by dinner he's had his fill of me and isn't as clingy.  But if he's tired he's super cling and we run the bath.  Then I drink a bottle of wine on my porch, HA!

goldenleaves

Yep!

I have a weird schedule so I'm gone for practically 2-3 whole days (I work midnights so I sleep during the day). The few minutes I have with the kids on the days I work, Lauren couldn't care less if I'm there. On my days off she can't be more than 2 feet away from me at all times.

It's annoying and cute all at the same time, lol.

Ya Never Know

I give DD a light snack while I make dinner. Her milk and a banana, or a frozen yogurt tube. She sits in her high chair while I get the dinner stuff ready, and that seems to work for us... In the same boat though, she'll scream if I put her down.